Tuesday, September 9, 2008
Friendship is my favorite type of SHIP
"I just did something REALLY, really embarrassing......"
Now this, is what friends are for. I've been coming off the love-low (much different from a love high. It involves less sex and more of self loathing, I prefer the former) and trying to deal with some of my anxiety over leaving for Europe in 6 DAYS, so after a good evening out with the ladies, I was really excited about this text.....
You know someone is an incredible friend if they're willing to tell you something that they'd rather shave their head before repeating again, especially if it's simply because they know the story will make you laugh so hard you pee your pants in public. Something like this:
"I just slept with (blank), it was great, really great....but then, while he was sleeping, I farted SO loud it woke him up."
God graced me with the privilege of receiving such a text message.
Friends can be a shoulder to cry on, a partner in crime when finishing off three bottles of wine (which Nicole helped me do) or they can give you a little GEM like this one when they know you're in need of cheering up. AND, they don't mind that you blog about them (anonymously of course.) Not to mention, I was allowed to ask her countless questions like; Did the bed rumble? Did it smell? Will he ever have sex with you again? Which yes he did. Did you laugh? Did you cry? etc. A good friend also, gladly answers such mortifying questions.
I've been thinking a lot about friendship lately. My girls, the women that have held my hair, that have defended me, that have let me cry with my head against the steering wheel, slamming my head against like a child as much as I wanted and were there to make sure I didn't drive home without a sufficient gain in confidence and completely dry of tears. The ladies that have been there to remind me of my self worth when I stray.
There are so few, yet so many who have been part of different chapters. There is the core and then there's a little opening for other strong ones to come into that bond.
I just got back from Los Angeles where I visited Nicole Anoinette....she is absolutely one of those people, a core person. As funny as that may seem to the people outside "Blog Land" but as I've gone through my twenties I've seen so many friends grow into entirely different people, people that are virtually strangers, who remain friends simply based off the history we have. Then there are new people (like Nicole), some who know you better that many of your current friends. Anyway we are absolutely soul sisters brought together through the divine workings of the Universe, aka. the internet. And the Universe, I'm a believer in the universe ;)
So this is just a little bit of a tribute to my friends. MY REAL, LOVELY, TRUE, friends. You know who you are :)
Thank you for texting me about your misadventures in your sex life, once I have some horrifying stories of my own I promise I'll share (cross my heart), thank you for making me feel less alone when I'm lonely; for acting as if you share my love for cheese plates (even if you don't), for not getting angry when I screen your calls cause I'm wallowing, for being able to drink me under the table (sometimes), for loving ME when I don't. Thank you for being incredible, beautiful, women. I am honored. Like Emily Dickinson said, no matter where I am....." My friends are my estate."
What do you have thank your friends for?????