Tuesday, April 28, 2009
IF I HEAR ONE MORE "NO" I'm going scream my FACE OFF
I've always said, "IT ONLY TAKES ONE YES."
It's not a corporation, it's not even a team per Se, it's not a league or an entire staff....IT'S ONE PERSON. One person makes the final decision always. One. damn. person. That person could end up be the crazy cat woman ordering a scone in front of you at Starbucks, or the odd Mickey Mouse voice on the other end of the phone call. One person can hold every potential opportunity, or none at all. Lately, I feel like I've been waiting for "ONE YES" from so many different people that I'm losing track of what I need them to approve in the first place.
Anyone that thinks that they can make their way to "the top" (which isn't really a landing place anyway, but that's entire different blog) all by themselves is delusional. Motivation? Sure, that's a one man job. Actually executing the job, often that's a one person thing too. Learning to be crafty, smart, clever, forward thinking- those things can't be taught, in any profession or with any degree (which is another blog, on which I rant about college/degrees/paper that says shit, etc.) and even with all of the "unteachable" things that one must have to succeed in a specific field, without a "ONE YES" all of those things are thankless.
At this point I don't even care how they say it; Sure, RIGHT-O, It'll do, Yes sirree, SI, Approved, Truuuue (in the tone of that chick from the Biggie Smalls song), thumbs up, Yea Bitch. They all mean basically the same thing. They mean, "YES, we believe in you enough to give this opportunity which will ultimately change the course of your career forever. Holla." That holla part is assuming whoever says yes to me has a wicked sense of humor or talks like a character from a Wayan's Brother film.
Life is a series of people giving you a helping hand. A response to an email, a piece of advice, an introduction....sure many things can be done on your own but even if you're the one blazing the trail you need someone who's willing to walk it. I've had so many people who were just willing to put their wing over me and say, "alright....this is how it goes..." and thus you repay them by listening, learning, soaking in every aspect of knowledge they're giving you freely and then flying on your own with that much more experience and gratitude that they were willing to take a gamble on you. So if you're sitting on the other end waiting for someone to place their bets, you better pull through and show them it was worth it.
The hardest part is getting them to bet in the first place. But then, think of the vastness of this world.....you know how many chance's there for a "yes?" three. simple. letters. I don't even think we're capable of grasping that.....and sure, cynics and Debbie Downers WA, WA, WA, your way over here and say the same goes for the amount of "No's" you get too....but really, it's just a numbers game. The more No's you get the closer you are to a "YES." ONE. YES. In fact, "NO" just fires me up and if you've read my blog about the ridiculous amount of rejection I've endured, you'd believe me. I'm a glutton for punishment.
I never have too much pride to say, "I know I don't know, but I'll do anything I need to do to figure it out." or "I know I don't have all the experience you need, but if I'm going to start somewhere I need to start now, and I promise- I'll be great at it."
Conceptually it seems that if you believe in yourself enough, that the people on the other end should trust that you don't want to let them down because ultimately, you don't want to let yourself down.
Defeat is such a silly emotion that we let consume far too much of our energy. One "defeat" is really just another opportunity to try something else.
SO, even while I'm sitting here waiting for a series of "YES'" that could ultimately put me on a career path I've been busting my very sore ass, from Jillian Michaels 30 Day Shred (she is Satan's child, I'm sure of it), to walk....I'm remembering that even if all them turn out to be NO'S....there's another yes, that's even more perfect waiting for me.
WHAT "YES" ARE YOU WAITING FOR??? OR, Who has given you an opportunity, a "yes" that changed your life???