Tuesday, September 1, 2009

Cohabitation isn't a very SEXY word.


The boy and I are moving in together. Oh yes, it's time.

We've been together almost a year- who would've thought a little over a year ago when I was in Europe whizzing around on a Vespa through the tiny streets, alongside the canals of Amsterdam with a Dutch gift shop employee- who sold me tiny Dutch clogs and later gave me an unofficial tour The Red Light District, etc. etc. (you can guess how the story unfolds), that I would be HERE. In love. Touring with a band. And looking into cute Denver lofts. And, thinking about diamond engagement rings.... eek!

"At least when I'm being a punk ass I'll have a comfy couch to sleep on...." says My Love after telling him about the ORGASMICALLY COMFORTABLE COUCH that he will be inheriting once all of my belongings are shipped from LA (where they've been for two years in storage) to our soon-to-be abode. Not only will he be inheriting my things, but we'll be inheriting everything GOOD AND BAD about each other.....

The best part; I'm not nervous. Not at all. It feels like the perfect natural progression for our relationship- in fact, had he asked me even three months after we'd been together to marry him, or elope to the Caribbean and get married on the beach in front of drunk tourists sipping Mai Tai's I would've done it. That's how perfectly in line living together feels.

There will be times when I want to shake him ferociously because he'll leave every cabinet in the kitchen open, or because he forgets to flush the toilet every morning after brushing his teeth. I'm certain I'll be irritated when his farts overwhelm the smell of the fresh basil I'm cooking with, and I'll want to vomit and there will be days when I want to box his face.

He'll be annoyed that I have "organized clutter," or that I'm a compulsive list-maker and that I throw a five year old fit every time there isn't yogurt in the fridge, or chilled wine to accompany my dinner. There will be times when he's disgusted with how much I care about reality television and there will be times when I express NO sympathy every time he locks himself out of the house- because he's lost his keys for the 20th time. Make that every time.

But really... I just can't wait for the anticipation of him walking in the door after we've been apart all day. I can't wait to sleep better because he's next to me. I can't wait to spend our "down time" together, when we're both just existing- reading, sitting, chatting wrapped up in eachother's energy and worn sweatpants. I can't wait to grocery shop and have laundry mat dates with Scrabble and Americanos, or cook bland pasta recipes for dinner every week until it's flavorful enough.

I can't wait to pick out paint swatches or roam through lofts waiting for that "feeling" that we've picked The Right One. I can't wait to hang up pictures, lift fragile things and tear open boxes, to throw out old memories that no longer serve us and create new ones together. Old mattresses? To the dumpster they go.

I can't wait to create a home with the person I love the most, because FINALLY I'll have the first home that feels like my own since childhood.

My morning coffee will finally be strong enough- he always knows how much to brew and we'll undoubtedly always have BACON. Which, let's be frank, bacon is the way to a man's soul and is the way to my libido. So, double score for us both. On that note- the sex. more. sex. loud, shameless- no-worries-of-roommates-intruding, sex.

I didn't think I would be here a year ago. I didn't think I would have been here in two years even. Isn't that funny?

Life throws you plans better than you imagined for yourself when you aren't expecting it. I'd also like to make a side note to "life" that I'd appreciate them keeping a baby out of the "plan" for at least 7 more years. And while I'm at it, "life" can you avoid throwing me weight gain, stretch marks, inconvenient zits, traffic jams, explosions, midget nightmares and unexpected bills as well? Thanks you're a doll.


I can't wait because sometimes I love him so much that my heart is ready to combust- and if my heart is going to combust I better have someone who wants to take care of me nearby.



WHAT DO YOU THINK ABOUT COHABITATION? HAVE YOU DONE IT? DO YOU AGREE/DISAGREE?







113 comments:

lollygagger said...

How exciting!! I think everyone has to do what's best for themselves. I feel like no one person grows up the same so why should that be any different as life goes on.

Personally, I don't think I'd want to live with someone unless I was engaged. But what can I say? I'm a bit of traditionalist when it comes to relationships. And I know that's just what's best for me.

All the things you mentioned though...I can't wait to share with someone :)

Liz said...

Whooop! I have totally been in your shoes (and still am). I live with my boyfriend and it's the best thing ever. I would never in a million years NOT live with my boyfriend/fiancee prior to marrying them--you learn so much about one another by living together good AND bad, as you stated. My best friend just got married and didn't live with him before and is having a really hard time adjusting.

Good luck and cheers to you and your love.

Taylor said...

That's awesome! Best of luck with everything! I'm much too young to be thinking about cohabitation...

tmamone said...

Cool! When the wedding finally comes, I better be invited!

Red said...

Congratulations!!! You don't really know someone until you live with them, so good luck on the adventure.

Lindsay said...

Yay! This sounds like a natural progression for your relationship. My boyfriend moved in with me in April and it's the best decision we ever made. His hours at work are really unpredictable, but this way even it he doesn't get home until 1 AM, he still crawls into bed with me and we have some time together. WIN!

L.L. said...

I'm doing in and like you said, it was such a natural path for us to follow - there were no nerves for me when I shacked up with my boy either. We have great days, good days, and even some bad days, but it's all about the love so it's all good!

Patty Ann said...

ohhhh i have a whole post on cohabitation here:

http://livinglifetothepinkest.blogspot.com/2009/03/co-habitating.html

i know you've read it already but to this day, still how i feel

good luck! its fun!

•¦Amy¦• said...

how wonderful!
i'm glad for you!

Katelin said...

oh man i am so excited for you! i love living with matt and it's definitely been an adventure so far. yaaaaaay!!!

cavy said...

oh chels!!!!!!! YAYYY!!!!! that is suuuper exciting! i lived with guys for awhile, but not just one, and not one i was dating or anything - so i can't give you much insight - BUT i am super pumped for you two :) i can't wait to read about it!

Kim said...

I think cohabitation is a VERY sexy word! My boy and I are moving in together (like today), and it is very exciting and wonderful. I wish we were moving into a new place (he's moving into my supercheap 1-bedroom) so it could truly be all our own, but we are moving things into storage (both his and mine) and decorating with both of our things to try to make it less like my place and more like OURS. Congratulations to you!

For what it's worth, my blog post on the subject:
http://kimskitchensink.blogspot.com/2009/07/on-cohabitation.html

Landlocked Bride said...

Congrats to you! I'm all for co-habitating (not a word, yes, I know). The FI and I lived together for almost a year before we were engaged. I love having him around and vice versa.

Olivia Rae said...

woww your posts always really get to me... this was so sweet. i'm so happy for you guys, you sound perfect together.

brittany said...

congrats! i have been living with my boyfriend for two years now and can say i've been through it all: the good, the bad, and the worse...but in the end, as long as you know you love him nothing else matters. cheeeeesy. but true.

good luck to the both of you! :)

I'm Just Sayin' - Kerri said...

I loved it. My now hubs and I kinda fell into it after only a couple months of dating. He had an accident at work and couldn't be left alone for 30 days. So he stayed with me so I could make sure he didn't fall in the shower or drive. He just never moved out. We loved it, even very early on, and thanks to that we were married on our 9 month anniversary and looky here expecting a baby in 5 weeks. It was a great start for us... Good Luck for you!

lovelila said...

I'm on the fence about cohabitation. I probably wouldn't do it unless I was engaged, BUT I'm not even certain about that. There'd be all these conditions and stuff that I just know I'd put in place because it would make ME feel better about it after the glares I'd receive from family.

Heh. So I guess I fall into the "to each his own" category. Fuck, I WISH I didn't care about what my family would think when it comes to cohabitation.

Soooo I guess it's ultimately not for me.

Unless I was living alone, then, fuck the family, hello lover!

lovelila said...

By living alone, I totally mean renting an apartment alone... but that may have been obvious because me owning any property really isn't in the cards at the moment. I'll shut up now.

reederscorner said...

That's awesome - congrats!!! :)

kat said...

I wish we'd moved into someplace as sexy as a Denver loft (instead of a Brooklyn railroad), but I have to concur with the rest of the commenters that cohabitation is the tits. Congrats! I've always thought that the moving-in was a much bigger step than getting married, actually.

Lilian Moreira εϊз said...

I was short of breath just reading the post.. imagine you, living all this! Good for you! Enjoy, life is good and even better when we have someone that you love so much. Congrats! ;)

Nik said...

This post just gives me a little hope that's all. I tried living with a man once. It didn't work out. Someday I'll try again . . . at least I HOPE so.

Clairebear said...

oh, thats so exciting!
Me and my partner have been living together for seven months now, we moved in together after dating for three and a half months. People often comment on that, but it was a natural progression, he pretty much lived at my house anyway so when my lease was up, we just got a place of our own. (so I totally get the natural progression thing).
It is the first time I've felt at home. I loved living on my own, but I've never felt more comfortable than I have since we started living together. Its awesome.
I was never into the cohabitation thing - I tend to not like sharing my space. I lived with a guy before this, a few years ago, and it was just awkward a lot of the time. But now I'm a convert.
Snaps to cohabitation!
(yes, I just said snaps.)

SandyB said...

Cohabitation rules. You gotta try before you buy girl. Word.


(and keep the receipt)

mysaucerfulofsecrets said...

My Hubby and I moved in together after dating for about two weeks and have never looked back. All these 9+ years later I wouldn't change a thing. It hasn't always been perfect but it's always been worth it!

nicoleantoinette said...

YES YES YES YES! I have been waiting for this forever and omg WHY DIDN'T YOU CALL ME?! But YAY FOR YOU AND RYAN!

So he's moving out of the loft? I need details immediately.

just me said...

That's so beautiful I can't even comment.

Seriously, my snarkiness has melted.

Meghan said...

I';ve done it and it was hard, but if you can make it work it's pure magic. Congrats to you and your love :)

Kristin said...

My husband and I never officially lived together before we were married, but we might as well have. He spent the night at my apartment the very first day we started dating, and I think it was at least two months later that we actually spent a night in separate buildings again. However, I'm glad we waited for him to officially move in, mostly because it would have caused a lot of unnecessary and annoying family drama, but also because I wanted marriage to feel special and different somehow, ya know?

Living together is great, for all the reasons you listed. I see him everyday no matter what, I fall asleep next to him, he is around even when we are lounging around doing nothing. PURE AWESOMENESS :)

Ashley said...

I've never done it, but I do think it's a good idea, especially before marriage. Good luck!

taraSG said...

Don't get me wrong I LOVE my husband and living with him... but am I the only one that sleeps better when he's gone?! He snores and kicks and I love to stretch out :)

Good luck with the move!!

Caroline in the City said...

cohabitation sounds better than "living in sin," as my family calls it. it still takes me a while to get used to sleeping next to a boy (cooties!).

i'm sure it will work out just fine.

Michelle said...

Congratulations! With your optimistic attitude, it seems everything will work out splendidly, xo.

Stevie said...

I absolutely hated having roommates. I absolutely love cohabitating. Congratulations, my dear! This is very exciting.

ditheringmiss said...

Cohabitating is awesome, so props to you. The best part is the down time. Together, but separate. Perfect.

Melissa Leeanne said...

Never done it but think it is absolutely the right decision if you are serious about a person. I wish you all the best!

I have lived with boys though, and sometimes the random farting is kind of unsettling. Maybe you get used to it though.

Nicole Leigh said...

my boyfriend and I moved in together two years ago. It's great and I can't sleep without him. Actually he says he can't sleep without me either. It's so much fun. Sure at first it was hard and we bickered a lot but then we got used to it and now we love living together! Best of luck!

Taren said...

That was cute. Personally, I'm excited to hear all about it - the good, the bad, and the extremely hilarious ;)

CuppyCakes said...

I am gearing up for cohabitation within the next year or so. Boy will be moving here from Far Far Away to be with me, and we will be forced into cohabitation because we're both earning Absolute Minimum Wage. Good times.
I go through moments of being genuinely terrified, and two minutes later I'll be delighted at the thought. I know it'll be a good thing, though.

Melly said...

D. and I have lived together for 4 years - he moved up to Connecticut to end our long-distance-ness. :)

We started living together then - and it's been bliss! I love having him here, and I know he loves that I'm his first sight in the morning, and his last sight at night.

Make sure you discuss finances - that tends to be the biggest point of tension in cohabitation (just like marriage). Budget together. If you bring home very different incomes, consider paying a proportionate percentage of rent.

Good luck!

RecoveringActor said...

The boyfriend and I have been together for six years... and we've been "living in sin" for three. and we've owned a house together for one year. So I'm all for cohabitation.

And he and I went from long distance to living together.

Allison Blass said...

I haven't lived with my guy yet, and we're not sure if we'll move in together before or after we get married. At first we were going to move in together when we got engaged, but now we're not sure. We may want to keep things traditional. We're also part of a religious community, who tend to frown on that, so while WE'RE OK with it, others might not be and it could cause unnecessary drama. But we still spend our weekends together, sleeping at one or the other's place. But not during the week because we live and work 40 miles away from each other. I suppose you just have to go with what you are comfortable with. Reading through the comments, it seems like everyone moves at a different pace, and I suppose it depends on just what you want, how you've been raised or what you believe in and also how convenient something is. Moving in with my guy would NOT be possible right now, because of that whole working 40 miles away from each other. Sure, we could move somewhere in between, but that's suburban New Jersey and I LOVE living on the Upper West Side. I'm not ready to do that yet. Priorities people!

ChasingParadise said...

Yay! You know, I think, in these times, it's SMART to move in together first. I mean hey, sometimes it's ugly and you fight and you sleep apart, but that's also REAL LIFE. But then you make up, and oh...it's so good. There's infinite snuggle time and play wrestling and taking long walks together. There's kitchen experimentation and paint swatch selecting and furniture shopping. IT'S FUN! Congratulations!

teresa said...

congratulations! it is wonderful that you 2 are so happy and about to take this step. reading your post took me back to when the HomeBoy & i moved in, and doing all those ordinary things together really made them feel so special.

Brooke said...

This post came at the perfect time! This is all my boy and I can talk about lately... except he's stuck 3,000 miles away until next June. So you best believe we'll be making this next step once he's back home! I really love all the anticipation in your description of what you know it'll be like (the good and the bad!). Good luck!

Herding Cats said...

My boyfriend of two and a half years and I just moved in together. We were talking about it last night and both agreed that it was MUCH easier than we thought it was going to be. In fact, we thought it seemed super comfortable and natural. You can only do it if you are ready for it. Yes, you will want to kill him at times. Yes, he will want to kill you at times. But it truly does feel like home if it is right.

amindinmotown said...

So very exciting for you, and I'm hoping that soon - sooner than later anyway - my boyfriend and I will do the same.

I lived with my ex and it was really great. Strangely, we cohabitated (horrible word) very well. It was other factors that led to our separation. But even after breaking up, we managed to live together for the following two months practically stress- and anxiety-free.

You'll love it, so I hope. And there will be days when you want to rip your hair out, or his, but the moments together will be worth it.

Rachael said...

How wonderful!! That is exactly the way you SHOULD feel. :) That's how it was for my now hubby and I. Although everyone has their moments (like, how hard is it to actually put your clothes in the hamper rather than toss them on the floor 2 feet away?) it's the most wonderful feeling to know your best friend and the person who embodies "home" to me is always here. :)

I think cohabitation is really important to any relationship. You never know what could come up... and not everyone feels like you and I did when moving in with their significant other. :)

Elle Bee... said...

Oh so exciting!

The Boy and I moved in together nearly 6 weeks ago. It was about a year before that when he asked me to move in, but I had just renewed my lease and couldn't get out of it. Otherwise, even though we hadn't been dating that long at the time, I would have jumped on the chance.

Being with him is easy, there really was no change... it's just like we're still having sleepovers but conveniently all my stuff is there and I don't feel so bad about doing laundry there. It was definitely a natural progression.

Congrats on the cohabitation!

brookem said...

oh im beyond thrilled for you!
this all just.... it makes sense. i love it. im so happy for you.
the manfriend and i are planning on cohabitating sometime in the spring. truth be told that seems so far off, but i know it will go by quick. as it is, we spend most every night together now... at his pad or mine. it works.
good luck to you, and i can't wait to hear all the good and bad and messy and sexy details!

jessica said...

Cohab is the only way to truly test your relationship longevity. To me not know all the little things about someone I want to "go all the way" with would be beyond dumb. It's very exciting though! My move in was just a general progression too. No muss no fuss and no stress at all. I think you are on the right track there love.

Doniree said...

I'm all for it, and I understand that that fact alone and the timing of it all is different for different people/couples. Congrats to you two though!!!

Erin said...

Congrats!!

I've been living with my boyfriend for two months and it's wonderful. There are times... but it's mostly wonderful. I think it will be the same for you.

Veronica Vaughn said...

WOW. How exciting! You will love it...Most of the time. Boys are smelly, alot.

I have recently moved in with my BF (the 7th will be 2 months) and I am so very happy that I decided to take that step.

Its hard some days, but there are so many good times of doing nothing together that make all the bad times worth it.

Good luck and enjoy it!

Holly Golightly said...

Hey! I currently live with my boyfriend and I love it! I actually wrote a similar post not too long ago where I also made fun of the word co-habitation. It sounds like a science experiment and I keep envisioning lab coats and rats.

I never thought I'd live with a significant other before I was engaged, but it makes so much sense for my boy and me that I decided to do it! I'm really happy I did.

Congrats on the big move!

Rachael said...

Congrats! I hope life throws you the perfect plan.

As far as cohabitation, I'm weary of it. Not sure I'll be ready for it until the ultimate commitment, but I think the circumstances are different for everyone.

Sizzle said...

I am so fucking happy for you. SO HAPPY! I hope some day I will love someone enough to want to live with them and it won't freak me out. I'm working on it. I should probably try dating. Heh.

I think cohabitation is good. Marriage is a whole other ballgame.

Phoenix said...

I am so right there with you on so many levels... I am falling in love again and considering the cohabitation (::rarr!::) factor. And even when you get all sentimental you still kick tons of ass, girl.

La Petite Chic said...

Beautiful post! I'm so happy for you. Jon and I were ready to move in together within months of meeting each other and were talking rings after 4 months. When you know, you just know :)

rebecca said...

i'm all for cohab... just the fact that you can have screaming, shameless sex is a def seller... have fun, enjoy, love, laugh..

'nuf said.

Dancing Sweet Pea said...

How exciting for you! It'll be great, trust me! I have lived with my boyfriend for the past seven years and have loved it! It's a great adventure!

Kern said...

Go you! How exciting to know you'll be creating a super nest all of your own, and well, his too.

Cohabitation is flippin' sweet with the right person! Bottoms up!

rachel said...

i love this. it's everything that being with someone you love it all about.

also? i just bought a house with a man who i've only been technically "with" for like, five weeks. :) it's good times.

Brett Alexandra said...

congrats, girly! Cohabitation is awesome. I think it's wise to do it before you're married too. It's an amazing experience!

Jay Ferris said...

You guys had better just go ahead and poo in front of each other now to get it out of the way. You know, to clear out some of those unavoidably awkward moments in advance and all.

hiphophippie.com said...

Congrats! I've done it, twice. On my second right now. It's wonderful. And at times horrible. There's nights when I really just want to sleep by myself and their habits really start to annoy you. But on the whole, it's a million times better than roommates.

Sebastian said...

Good luck! I hope there is a little bickering, if only to dilute the chronic sappiness that has invaded your life and your blog.

Just kidding; I wish you all the best with him, and with the living together :)

Katie said...

I started cohabitating with my boyfriend 6 months after we started dating. (Granted, we'd known each other for 3 years and had dated in a previous life...in college.) It was the best, most awesome thing I've ever done. Absolutely sealed my belief that he's the person I'm supposed to spend my life with.

Congratulations on the big move! :)

Katie said...

I started cohabitating with my boyfriend 6 months after we started dating. (Granted, we'd known each other for 3 years and had dated in a previous life...in college.) It was the best, most awesome thing I've ever done. Absolutely sealed my belief that he's the person I'm supposed to spend my life with.

Congratulations on the big move! :)

Samantha said...

Yay! Congratulations on moving in together! You sound really happy, and I wish you two the best! My hubby and I (who were very recently married) never lived together while we were dating, so it should be interesting to see what unfolds! Probably most of the things you mentioned! It'll be a fun ride, though. :)

Ela said...

I'm so excited for you two! LOL @ "shake him ferociously", I admire your refrain from doing anything worse. Yay to discovering even more about each other :)

It is funny where life takes us. Yet somehow, it's always where we need to be.

Best of luck with your new home :)

JKreids said...

Love it! You sound ready to accept the good AND the bad because the bad is frankly, inevitable.

Rebekah J said...

I'm apartment-hunting for myself right now and I would LOVE for my boyfriend to come live with me. We've been together almost 2 years total and I am READY for this. He says he's not but he can't seem to articulate why. I am very frustrated.

But very happy for you! It seems like a fun time and a wonderful step for you both.

Joy @ BigTimeFancy said...

AHHHHHHHH SO EXCITING!

I've never cohabitated, but OMG I think it's a fantastic idea.

Michelle said...

I just moved to Denver with my love! Both of our first times in denver and both of our first times living together. We got a place at hampden and I-25, it's cheap and HUGE. We've been here two weeks and love it. Except he keeps leaving dirty clothes on the floor :/

kirstyb said...

how exciting good luck on the move xoxox

honestchitchat said...

Cohabitation isn't for me. Way traditional in that sense. Good luck to you though! xoxo

syd vicious said...

Aww that's sweet. I'm happy for you!

Lindsey Marie said...

My boyfriend and I currently cohabitate, but with his MOTHER. i love her, but it's just not the same. hopefully soon we'll have our own place, and all of the lovely things you've described. especially the loud sex without worrying about waking his mom.

Sarah said...

I can't wait to live with my boyfriend. He currently just enlisted with the Navy Reserves so I'm sure that once he is done with Boot Camp and training we might live together. I can't wait for all the things you described.

Congrats!!

Jill Pilgrim said...

Dude, that is so awesome!!! I'm a big believer in moving in together. My husband and I lived together for about a year before our wedding. I personally wouldn't marry someone I hand't lived with.

Jules said...

Or you'll annoy each other by moving the toothpaste because one of you thinks it should be placed in one spot and the other in another spot (hypothetically of course).

Hubby and I lived together before we got married too. I agree. I think EVERYONE should!

It's fun! Enjoy!!

LiLu said...

I did what you're doing after two months, and it is PERFECT. Nothing can describe how comfortable it is, how wonderful that "down time" together is. And that whole thing about feeling like you have a home for the first time since you left, well, home?

100% true.

Relish it, my dear. You have nothing but great things to look forward to. Trust.

Jaime said...

I did it twice, and they were two terrible mistakes. I did it for financial reasons mostly, and both times I ended up stuck being with someone I wasn't happy with. BUT I feel like when I meet the right person it will be natural and wonderful.

Megan said...

You sound ridiculously drunk with happiness, pass the bottle girl!! Haha. I hope to be as happy as you one day.

I think cohabitation can bring out the best and worst out of a couple, depending on the couple. I think I'm so scared of it because I've seen so many couples fall apart because of it. But I truly believe that if you are sharing a home with the right person, it should be effortless.

for the love of pictures said...

That's great :) Congrats to you both.

I'm hoping to be in a cohabitation situation with my man fairly soon. I have to say that I feel pretty much the same as you. It's just something that feels so natural and right (despite all the arguments that we'll probably have) - I can't wait for it :)

Abra said...

what an exciting progression in your relationship! i'm glad you're excited for it and not nervous at all. from all your descriptions of what it will be like, i can see why you wouldn't be :)

my bf is currently living with me... but it isn't really a formal situation of cohabitation. two weeks ago he needed a place to stay, and the most logical thing was for him to stay with me. even when he had his own place we were together almost every night, anyway.

but honestly, i don't really like it. i think because it IS a situation that isn't formal cohabitation. there wasn't any talk about how things would be conducted, beyond me saying "after two weeks i'm backtracking and charging you $15/night rent." there's also barely enough space for the two of us, and even though i have my own room, i have two roommates that i live with (and another girl that's been staying with us since she also is in need of a place to stay).

so yeah. the situation is less than ideal. to the point where it might actually affect our relationship... but we'll see. hopefully not.

good luck with yours!

The Shewolf said...

Aw girl, congrats! It's definitely worth all the farts and snoring in the world to have your man wake you up in the morning and tell you he loves you. And he doesn't have to go home later.

When my ex and I lived together, we definitely got 2 notes from the downstairs neighbor about the "loud thumping noise" coming through the ceiling at 2 in the morning. HA HA! Have fun!

Nashe^ said...

Aww that made me smile. All the best!

J-Diggety said...

Congrats!! How exciting! And yes, I've done... but my story ended sadly, so we won't go there... but it is SO nice to settle into that place with your man.

Ooh, will you post pics once you find a place and decorate it all cool-like (I imagine you two to be incredibly hip and cool, so naturally your apartment will be)???

Thunderroad79 said...

I think whatever happens naturally is the right thing. You weren't expecting it, it just happened because it works. I like how you said you finally have a home that feels like home since your childhood home. When you're with the right person, they become home...no matter where you are. Good luck and enjoy your live together..

j said...

i think i'm for it, but terrified at it.
you are amazing! i can hardly handle it!

Kyla Roma said...

Congratulations! Mister and I have lived together for three years (pre-marriage) and it was a sweet, wonderful time. It'll be brilliant =)

Nataliexxx said...

I'm so happy for you. God bless your relationship as from what you've described it's special <3
xxx

chelsina said...

looks like you posted this a while ago, sorry to lag. Moving in is great, and its great that you are so comfortable with it.

the best thing about cohabitation is that you will know whether or not the relationship will work out. :) best of luck my dear.

Lisa Chelle said...

I am so happy for you, really! Shacking up is a personal choice, and it works for you that is awesome.

I am insanely jealous of a sleeping partner and bacon, I believe you may be the luckiest girl in the world.

As for my pathetic situation, I am counting on "Life throws you plans better than you imagined for yourself when you aren't expecting it".

Glad to be caught up on you!

Becky said...

I just wanted to let you know that I wrote a short blog about you and how your past couple of posts have really meant a lot to me. Thanks for being an awesome writer! BTW I just found this book called "Shacking Up, The Smart Girl's Guide to Living in Sin Without Getting Burned." By Stacy Whitman and Wynne Whitman. It's definitely worth checking out.

life according to celia... said...

congratulations on your new venture!! cohabitation is fantastic. i love how you made mention that it will be the first time it feels like home since you were a child... because that REALLY IS how it feels. but even better, it will feel like YOUR home that YOU'VE created. it's the best feeling! :)

brilliantfirefly said...

aw what a beautiful love story. this is the stuff movies are made of :)

and i whole heartedly believe cohabitation is necessary before marriage. how can you really know a person without living with them?! good choice, good choice.

Layla said...

Congrats on the big move! I'm so excited for you to be happily in love :)

Jules said...

Well, my family would have fa-reaked if we lived together. But we got married pretty soon after getting together so it wasnt too much torture (=

"But really... I just can't wait for the anticipation of him walking in the door after we've been apart all day."
You're dead on... this is THE BEST part of living together.

Yay and good luck apt searching!

The Non-Student said...

Cohabitation is AWESOME, especially if you two are ready for it. You'll learn more about each other than you thought you would, but that's a good thing if you're in it for the long haul. Plus, since as you said, "cohabitation" isn't a sexy word, it's not an overly romanticized thing. It's real and AWESOME.

CaraBella said...

Hahaha, love this. And ooh, Vespa-ing through Amsterdam? *that* sounds like a good time. Cohabitation interestingly can push some people's buttons -- oh wait, that's just in conservative Texas where I am? Well, the hubs and I cohabitated a couple years before we got married, and it was great :D -- other than losing a place to escape to when either of us really needed it :D It was more like a "hmm, this makes financial sense because we're always together" thing rather than romantic :D Sounds like y'all are in for quite a bit of fun -- flatulation always adds to the ambiance :)

Martinis or Diaper Genies? said...

wow good luck sister! I remember back in the day when B and I moved in together. Oh the drama.

Sassy Molassy said...

So great for you Chels! I'm in the place where the man and I are ready to cohabitate, but he has a roommate who needs to move out first. UGH. We were just about to really MOVE in together and then the roommate (who was NEVER there) broke up with his serious girlfriend and is moving back tomorrow. Not gonna lie, I've had panic attacks and crying spells about it. Just not sure what's going to happen. But getting to that place where cohabitation seems great and no big deal is fabulous. I've been with the bf for 9 months and never did i think i would be ready so soon to move in. BUt I am . ready to move on with our lives together as a couple. As a forever together couple. Congrats on your cohabitation and enjoy!!! :)

iheartkiwi said...

goodness girl, you've made me appreciate my live in love situation all over again.

i moved in with my man just a few months ago and couldn't be happier. i was shocked at how natural it felt. no more schlepping overnight stuff back and forth and no more your place, my place only, our place. my favorite part is cooking dinner together every night. it's a lovely thing.

we're getting married in november and i'm pretty darn excited i get to wake up to the same man for the rest of my life.

Chelsea Talks Smack said...

AH, reading everyones comments on the good and bad of cohabitation is SO INCREDIBLE. I love hearing the stories of you all that are enjoying it so much and also loving the times when it gets tough and messy because you know you'll be able to get through it.

I can't wait to fill you in on all of our adventures!

Melissa said...

I was smiling the whole time I was reading this. I was the exact same way when I moved in with my now husband. It really IS everything it's cracked up to be! Congrats and enjoy!!

Magchunk said...

So exciting. You know from my blog that we're moving in together (in 2 weeks!) but I definitely was looking for "the one" apartment that felt right and felt like OUR home. Which did lead to one moment, me starting to cry on the corner in downtown Seattle over a pulled pork sandwich, wailing to Ryan "We're NEVER going to find a place! We're going to be homeless!!" 24 hours later, we found our dream apartment. It'll happen.

Jamie D said...

omg i love reading ur blog so much! your perspective cracks me up everytime!!smart and witty! love it

Slice of Pink said...

Very exciting!

I was a co-habitator and am totally all for it!

BakerGirl said...

J and I haven't crossed this bridge because we are currently existing out of two different cities. It's all shits and giggles let me tell you!

However, I would definitely live together before taking THE big step of engagement/marriage.

Craig@Work said...

Good luck, it will definitely show you whether or not you should be together. First woman I aske dto live with me didn't, and it was the beginning of the end of our three year relationship. The next one actually proposed it to me, as my male ropommate decided to strike out on his own and she offered to replace him. One month later she was pregnant, we married four months later and have been married over five now.

So, it will either be a great thing, or an eye-opener toward what you want in a mate and what you will live with.

Oh, and use strong birth control to eliminate suprises!!!

 
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