Tuesday, December 29, 2009

We are going to starve. Or live off mini M&M's.


The holidays were lovely- my Scroogey attitude was quickly reversed when I realized I'd be getting gifts.

eek. Gift highlights; A letter written to me from my very favorite blogger/author Stephanie Klein, petitioned by my super sweet man. A month of unlimited yoga, from my parents. The box set of The Tudors (I've been speaking "tudor" for 5 days straight now, "Come hither boy!" and "What say you?" my two favorite phrases.) and plenty of goodies that smell good and make my skin soft.
...now onto bigger issues.


The other night My Love and I got in a quarrel. Just a small one. But the weight of the issue, is grand. Issue: WHAT'S FOR DINNER.

Let's preface this argument with some history: growing up with a Mother who owned a dance studio, she worked from 3pm-10pm....dinner was Taco Bell at eleven o'clock at night, or rubbery chicken that my Dad baked. Or some odd assembly of food that came wrapped in plastic. It wasn't until much later in my adult life that my Mom changed her schedule and started using the cookbooks gathering dust in our junk drawer. I learned how to "fend for myself"....if you will.

My Love's upbringing was different; he came home from school, greeted by a snack. A pb&j, crusts cut off and large glass of milk (he still will not eat anything with an OUNCE of sugar, if it isn't accompanied by milk.) He ate dinner every night with the family at 5pm. In fact, meals were planned....a year in advance at times. Impressive and also never gonna happen in my house. Eggs were on the table every morning, there was always an abundance of Icecream in the freezer and "special" bread in the bread box. AND to wrap it all in a perfectly family bow, there were placemats, seasonal and handmade placemats.

How he's even attracted to me in the slightest is by some act of God. Or confusion and desperation. But, I'd like to think God has something to do with it.

The exchange that made me realize we're going to have to find a solution for this "What's for dinner" madness went like this:

My Love, "Babe.....what are we gonna do for dinner?"

Me, "I don't know. Whatever."

Him, "How aboutttt...Stir Fry?" (first of all, I don't eat STIR FRY unless I'm ordering in and probably a little depressed.) "It's easy; just some veggies, Ground beef, rice, NOODLES and soy sauce."

Me, "Are you serious? You want me to eat rice, noodles AND soy sauce all together, in one meal? Do you want to have sex with a balloon later? I'd be able to float after that meal."

My Love proceeds to give me this dumbfounded look as if he's never heard of the affects of sodium on the human figure. Then the debate goes, well who's cooking this alleged stir fry? In all fairness, he HAS cooked more than I have in this home...but like I said, I'll just eat yogurt and call it a night. We bounce back and forth food options, his all involve some absurd caloric value, while mine carry some monetary value and a waiter.

In the most dramatic fashion, I end up crying with a spoonful of peanut butter in my mouth, as I question my ability to be a good housegirlfriend.

So what do you do about this? No one gives you a manual that says, "Here's how to live with your boyfriend: Chapter two- Change your eating habits and learn to cook, bitch."

When you're living with someone you have to find a compromise with everything; with things you didn't think twice about before. First it's peanut butter, then it's laundry detergent, then it's "I can't dry my clothes with a Downy Ball"....downy ball? Next thing you know you're at Target looking for a Downy Ball. Then there's; do we eat breakfast together every morning, do we decide dinner plans ahead of time?

The IDEA of being that woman who knows how to bake things according to altitude, and who makes a "signature" something that everyone asks for when you attend a party is all a nice IDEA. The idea of being perfect is always nice, it's just not real.

My solution is this; We cook together. TOGETHER. If we make mushy pasta, or overly salted sauce, we do it together. We chop and dice and smell and squeeze to check for ripeness, together. When we fend for ourselves, we decide together that it's a cereal night.


AND if I am going to take on some roll as cook extraordinaire.....



What's YOUR favorite meal to cook?
















168 comments:

Grace Boyle said...

I'm not domestic either. Maybe in my older age, I'm becoming really culinary-esque because I'm such a foodie but rather prefer eating it than cooking it. Now though (my mother and Nunnie worry I won't be a good housewife) I started to cook, it's therapetuic.

Food bloggers helped me. Because I like bloggers and they have pretty pictures and easy to do recipes and then I felt so cool and happy that I produced something so delicious.

I also feel like to be a proper Italian, I need to master our family recipe of pasta sauce, pasta and salad. That's easy. I can wow people without doing much.

I love:
http://userealbutter.com/
http://www.purplefoodie.com/
http://www.orangette.blogspot.com/
http://www.seriouseats.com/

There, long winded. Woo. Surprise your love with that and BOOM. ;)

LovelyAnomaly said...

I *love* the Hungry Girl cookbook (found at Target) and Rachael Ray 30 minute meals.

One thing I make all.the.time is her shepherd's pie:
http://www.foodnetwork.com/recipes/rachael-ray/30-minute-shepherds-pie-recipe/index.html

However, instead of using beef stock, I use 3/4 cup of Guinness. And way more spices than she uses to season the beef. So yummy.

Amy said...

I pretty much dont cook very much (I'm trying to change this, but I'm just not that savvy in the kitchen!) My poor husband. But to be fair, he NEVER cooks either!

Nahl said...

AWESOME POST.
gone are the days when the responsibility was only on the woman.

Chelsea Talks Smack said...

grace- love this, so excited to read these blogs! you're right about pasta sauce,i need to get on that band wagon.....

ktbwood said...

hahah this story is hilarious! im glad you are so honest :) i bet most couples are like this!! gah, when i get married i cant imagine what we are going to have to dinner..my boyfriend HATES everything i eat!

Stevie said...

This is just too funny because even though I LOVE to cook, I find myself cooking stir fry about once a week. :-)

I also love to cook Indian food (but it's really time consuming) and I came up a with a mean recipe for a Thai chicken soup that is quite tasty, IMHO.

chelseybell. said...

i am so far from domestic. i wish i took the time to plan meals and cook, and do all the other things that make a house a "good" one. but june cleaver i never claimed to be.

here's hoping both of us can make a little bit of progress in our homes!

Rasha (andthisiswhatshesaid) said...

Too funny.. Im not domestic, and boyfriend cooks mostly, hahaha!

Savannah said...

An all time favorite is parmesan and butter pasta. And, if you are in the mood for some protein you can always add chicken. But, with only three ingredients, it's super quick and easy!

Denika said...

I'm not much of a cook but I make a mean Spaghetti Bolognese :)
x

www.putitinalovesong.blogspot.com

LENORENEVERMORE said...

I used to be 'domesticated'...not so much anymore! I have a life now...
xo*

Joanna said...

I really need to learn how to cook; it's my boyfriend's Christmas wish (not really, but probably). He ordinarily does all the cooking and he, quite understandably, would like me to pick up the slack. It's something I'm working on.

Jennifer said...

Cute post. I like pasta dishes myself. I can't cook a whole lot off the top of my head, but I can cook and I love to add veggies and things to whatever dish it is for flavor--y'know, within reason... Don't want to add veggies to a fruit salad. :P

Meghan said...

This post speaks to me on so many levels, as I have only cooked two meals for my husband in our five years together and I HATE THE KITCHEN. I wish I could offer some great meals or advice, but sadly, I can't. I can tell you how to clean your apartment like no other, however! Good luck!

Christina said...

I DO like to cook however my house-mate boyfriend eats like a 5 year old. I like to watch him cook pasta and garlic bread. It's like watching a disaster happen.

Herding Cats said...

I love that you guys have the same funny conversations that all cohabitating couples have. Well, I know that Elliott and I used to have a really hard time with it. You see, I am the one that wants to have "meals" with substance while boyfriend will eat mac n cheese out of a box every night.

Here's our compromise:
I plan dinners for 5 nights a week. I like to use healthy recipes from Self or Allrecipes.com or from The Trader Joe's cookbook. We BOTH do the shopping. I do most of the cooking, but he helps (especially with chopping onions and pouring the wine). If I do the majority of cooking, he cleans and vice versa. This has really cut down on the bickering, and I believe we do save money and calories!

That one girl said...

Cooking I'm not so bad at, there is no crazy high altitude involved in most EXCEPT for rice. Rice sucks to cook here. Don't do it. It will ruin your cooking self esteem forever!

The trick for meat and an oven is a meat thermometer. I didn't want to believe it but finally gave in and it's a wonderful tool.

Baking: I suck balls at baking... especially HERE! What did I learn? Cut the baking soda and/or baking powder in HALF! If you don't, you have a flat pankcake disaster thing. Guess the rising stuff works too fast then quits in high altitude.

What else? Easiest/yummiest meal is just steaming/reheating King Crab legs. Mmmm! No talent needed and people think you are a God. They are almost ALWAYS on special at the Whole Foods on Colorado.

Sarah @ Pandora's Box said...

Hahaha "Do you WANT to have sex later". That made me laugh out loud.

Secretia said...

My favorite meal to cook is a whole roasted chicken, just stick it in the oven and take a nap!

Secretia

ashalah said...

I am not domesticated in the slightest. It's pretty pathetic, really. I've been known to make scrambled eggs EVERY NIGHT. Sometimes I'd add in goat cheese since I'm addicted to the stuff but mostly, my cooking wasn't very broad.

As far as easy recipes though, I make a good lemon chicken recipe that i got from my mom and some veggie couscous that's also super easy. If you want the recipes I can email them to you!

Brooke said...

I'm telling you right now: fish and veggies. Okay so it looks/tastes/sounds all gourmet and shit but it is SO EASY. Put two pieces of fish with a little bit of olive oil and possibly some cherrie tomatoes all together and put in the oven at 400 for maybe 15 minutes ....ish. Also, cut up a variety of veggies (seriously, anything. You could do sweet potatoes, any potatoes, brocolli, bell peppers, blah blah blah) and sprinkle them with salt and pepper, and put olive oil if you want. In my opinion, they're best by themselves. and bake those for 30 minutes.

The key to having your signature dish is practice. I made those dishes so many times and now I know how to make them easy breezy. Also, presentation is key. All it takes is taking the veggies off the pan and putting them on a nice dish and VIOLA you're a cook.

Good luck!

Alicia said...

omg i just discovered your blog! you are hilarious! ;) AND i love The Tudors, so jealous you got the set for xmas!

Miss Caitlin S. said...

hahah, I Love this. I never cooked either but now, I taught myself to and I love all the cooking I do! Um, I would have to say that cooking chicken breast is super easy. :)

http://candyflosspersie.blogspot.com/

omfg-vivian said...

PANCAKES!! :) hehe nice post.

michelle said...

uhhh cookies is a meal, right? i'm convinced im a terribly cook so i avoid cooking most of the time... well i guess until the last 6 mo. i stopped eating cheese and crackers for dinner and started making LOTS of pasta... so let me try that again. my favorite meal to cook is ghetto mac n cheese. i like whole wheat pasta, but i hate cheese powder now. so i make my mac like normal. then i spoon in cheez whiz while it's hot. it's half healthy

ps - you should totally write that book. it would be very helpful :)

Caro said...

I love anything on the BBQ, humm ribs....humm steak... I even have a recipe for brownies on the BBQ :P

Lemondrop Marie said...

I have been married for years and am only slightly ahead of you in the kitchen. I do try to get some easy to throw together things for events such as yours. In an emergency I throw fresh veggies and ground turkey on a store bought frozen pizza and it SEEMS as if I have done something. I need help too.
Marie @ Lemondrop ViNtAge

marie joanne said...

thank you for comment :)

Megan said...

I had this issue when I first moved in with my boyfriend, neither of us ever wanted to cook. Somehow we worked out some orderly system where the first person home cooks, or the person who does the grocery shopping doesnt have to cook. As you said its all about compromise!

Jillian (back to the nest) said...

My favorite thing to cook is chips and salsa. The cooking part involves putting the tortilla chips on a plate and heating them in the microwave for 20 seconds. I live with my parents and not a boyfriend for a reason

Gina said...

Man, I am NOT looking forward to living with my future boyfriend/husband! =)

I have a friend who lives with her boyfriend; she plans out their dinner meals for the week in advance and writes them out on the white board she keeps on the fridge. Talk about Little Miss Suzy Homemaker!

I think that the notion of deciding on what to eat together and cooking it together seems like a good idea. It makes you guys more of a team.

My favorite easy things to cook are grilled cheese sandwiches, chicken quesadillas, and spaghetti. SO EASY! I also like to make chicken fettucini with broccoli and bacon, which is also easy, but a little labor and time intensive.

Do you like Trader Joe's? They have a cookbook called "Cooking With All Things Trader Joe's." There are some really delish meals in there!

http://www.amazon.com/gp/product/0979938414?ie=UTF8&tag=coowittrajoes-20&linkCode=as2&camp=1789&creative=9325&creativeASIN=0979938414

Good Luck!

•¦Amy¦• said...

I quite luckily like to cook, though I quite unluckily have no boyfriend to test my skills on... so I'd say we're about even. I mean, when you're only making yourself a meal it's not as satisfying, and I usually (when my mom decides to forgo making dinner) resort to having half a bag of goldfish crackers for dinner instead of actually cooking a meal.

I don't think cooking (as a womanly duty) is a requirement in a relationship though by any means. My grandparents were more than happy, and my grandmother couldn't cook to save her life. That, was my grandpa's thing. If he wasn't cooking you ate out and that's just how it went.

But as for my favorite meal to cook, I love making curried chicken, it's really very easy. I buy premade curry sauces at Trader Joes, some chicken/and or tofu, veggies, and rice, and trow it together. Very simple and very fast.

J. said...

I am NOT domestic, so when I do cook for my Love, it's generally things I learned to make when I was 12, also fending for myself... tacos, spaghetti, hb helper. My dear boyfriend acts as though I've created a gourmet meal everytime, though :)
(I really think it's just so I'll keep cooking- anything I make, simple or not, is better than what he's willing to attempt!)

Amanda said...

I feel your pain here. My husband's mother cooked everything from scratch, and it's all country food seasoned with nothing but a ton of salt and bacon grease. Yuck. We have very different tastes in food. At first I tried to do things just like his Mom did, but honestly, I'll be damned if I air dry all his Tshirts so they won't shrink. Remember, you're not his mother, you're his girlfriend. You didn't take him to raise.

Couture Cookie said...

LMAO! I feel your pain! Me and my boyfriend have found the optimal solution: we cook separately and do our laundry separately as well. People think we're nuts but it works, and besides I would never eat the food he eats or else I would be three times my current size!

I am not a skilled chef by any means, but just had a bowl of "home made" sauteed mixed seafood, baby spinach and brown rice. BF was very impressed, but of course he would never touch any of it... he's fine with his pizza or peanut butter sammies (no jelly here).

kimi said...

Hi :)
I am the total same way. When I lived by myself for 3 years, it was take-out or cereal. Then I started cooking for my bf and it was a rare thing. When I am hungry, I want to eat right then. I don't think about food when I am not hungry. So cooking a meal that took an hour was like pure torture. After finding easy recipes I started cooking more and enjoyed it.
there are still many times where I just want cereal or a frozen burrito. it does help to cook together.

we just got an electric wok and we made stir-fry tonight. i do a few things and he does some other stuff and we eat together.

i like to cook fish and chicken and steak...ok most meat. LOL :)

Monster Girl said...

Sorry, but this post just made me reaaaally want stir fry. :)

Meghan said...

I've never cooked meat and swear to this day a man will have to put a ring on my finger before I tackle that hurdle.

That being said, pierogies are easy to make and immensely satisfying to cook. Try it :)

JUST ME said...

I can't cook either. I make no apologies. It's not MY job to feed everyone.

Elizabeth Marie said...

I am so not domestic. I suck. I always made salad from a bag and mushy spaghetti when I was with my ex. But he ate it. ha.

dude. Just have cake balls.

Dani said...

When the Ex and I first moved in together, for a month straight everything I cooked had the same mushy starch-and-protein-in-thick-sauce consistency. Eventually I learned to switch it up.

As for good, easy things to cook I'm always one for tacos. All you have to do is make the meat, open a some salsa and cheese and maybe chop up some lettuce. Plus if you season your own you can significantly lower how much of that dreaded balloon-making sodium is in them.

Elizabeth said...

This exchange is so hilarious. I'm afraid in my house I'm the "What's for dinner" whiner. But fortunately I like to cook, so I usually answer the question myself and get to work. In desperate moments when I cannot deal with cooking or ordering in, we'll open up a can of chili or something.

*uncorked said...

Oh God, this is my biggest fear if/when I actually find someone who can put up with me (and vice versa) and actually live with. Sometimes I love to cook - like tonight I made a swordfish panini with arugula and lemon aioli (got a panini press for Christmas and had to test it out with something more than nutella on bread). But some nights, a bagel and cream cheese is fine for me. Or toast. Or something frozen that tastes like cardboard. I'm holding out to marry a chef.

Ben said...

I have been a cooking MACHINE lately. For whatever reason, whenever I'm left at home alone I dress up in cardigans and ties and cook gourmet meals for one.

Yes - I know I should spend such time pantsless watching porn. I think I have a disorder.

Foodie Girl said...

I love to cook. The possibilities are endless. One of my favorite things I have cooked in the past was a prime rib with horseradish sauce and some jus. Simply mouthwatering delicious.

J-Diggety said...

My favorite thing to cook? Food. I'm hungry about every 3 or 4 hours. Lol, I kid... kind of... ;) I am blessed with the Li'l Suzy Homemaker gene in the kitchen, but more often than not, due to time and money constraints (yeah, the whole dancer thing = no money), I do quickie food... case in point: tonight's dinner was mac 'n cheese and canned green beans. Gourmet, baby!

On the rare occasion I do whip out a full meal a la the Iron Chef, I do Italian. I would love to learn to cook Moroccan, that's my next kitchen project...

Allison Blass said...

Erik and I buy a ridiculous amount of food from Trader Joe's, so we "heat" more than cook. But my mom bought me a Jamie Oliver cookbook for Christmas which I'm excited to try out in 2010 and hopefully accomplish one of my goal's on my 101 Things list (I better hurry - it ends September 28!)

Susan said...

My boyfriend - woops! fiance - has ironed my clothes for me because I suck at it. While in the kitchen in a similar situation, I found that breakfast for dinner works well.

Rachael said...

My mom and I fight about this ALL of the time. Neither of us ever wants to pick...or actually cook it. To solve this, I've started to learn to cook. My mom watches and gives instruction and I do the manual labor. It works out pretty well.

Chelsea Talks Smack said...

allison blass- does the jamie oliver cookbook comes with an ample amount of photos?? :)

Chelsea Talks Smack said...

ben- that sounds like a really amazing vlog. you, cooking, in your outfit. dinner for one. i see it already.

Lara said...

Thanks for the comment and I LOVE your comment about you and you love's upbringing. My husband and I are exactly the same way only I am the one with the mother who was at home when I got home from school. And when she HAD to work, she worked at our school so she was always near. our family was very traditional. My husband grew up totally different. His parents both worked, they never went on vacation (we road tripped the whole country during the summer) and they never ate in their dining room (we ate in our on sundays). But somehow, we love each other! :)

Randi Lee said...

hahaha... interestingly enough I never knew people cooked certain items at according to the altitude until a few weeks ago. A girl a work commented on how difficult it is to make fudge in FL because of the altitude. I was baffled.

Most of my good healthy, easy, cheap, ready for you when you walk in the door meals are done via crock pot. Just throw a bunch of stuff in in the morning to make chili, chicken noodle soup, cabbage soup, pot roast, whatever... and TA DA when you get home all you have to do is fill your bowl. It's fabulous.

emma wallace said...

That's hilarious. My boyfriend always cooks and won't really even let me in the kitchen. Which makes me grumble. But not loudly enough that he offers to let me cook.

iamemmamusic.blogspot.com

molly YEH! said...

i LOVE this post! i guess i was the female version of your love in this situation :-/
my mum has a zillion cookbooks and when she's not at work, she's in the kitchen! lately i've been helping her out when i go home..
the other day we made chicken and biscuits from rick bayless' cookbook. another amazing cookbook is the pioneer woman (it's complete with lots of pretty pictures and a cute love story)

and as for my fave/signature dish... mac and cheese!!

so not conducive to the post holiday "i need to get rid of my gut" thing. but it's worth it.

good luck! cooking is way fun and therapeutic :-)

Cindy Whitehead said...

I am not great at cooking, but I LOVE to eat what others prepare - its always yummy (-:

Lindsey said...

sounds oddly familiar.....the boy cooks and i like to help him eat whatever he cooks. not vice versa.

as far as the best recipe, it would have to be anything on smittenkitchen.com - the pictures will make you drool, bon appetit!

Meghan said...

P.S. Speaking of recipes, I see we're both up for 20SB awards cough*youvoteformeivoteforyou*cough.

Yes, french toast IS easy and yet satisfying ;)

Who? Me? said...

I have to say...I'm an awesome cook. Email me with some of the things you guys like and I'll pass on some amazing, quick, can't fuck it up recipes!

karijo . 09 @ gmail . com

Blackbird Fly said...

Oh my god, haha, so funny, I love your writing! :D

 ALH said...

Thanks so much for the comment!! It meant so much to me :) Love your blog. The "what to do for dinner" conundrum has haunted many of my relationships also. My favorite thing to cook? cereal: captain crunch with some ice cold milk-it's a perfect breakfast, lunch, dinner or dessert. The all inclusive meal and it's easy :) good luck with your quest into domesticity!

♥Aubrey said...

Damn skippy...as your peanut butter would say :)-
Cook together...clean together...sleep together...it's a never ending cycle of togetherness!!!

the "L" spot said...

I'm marrying a chef. really lucked out on that one...except for the 20-30ish pounds he packed on me...before we started dating i was a vegetarian that ate nothing but vegetables...after brian got me hooked on pasta and bread hence the weight gain!! With our wedding a year away I don't let him cook for me anymore!! Me and frozen bags veggies are bffs!

beware the weight gain!!lol

Faux Naif said...

i like the idea of cooking together - i was brought up with a culinarily disabled mother and an overly busy father, so i had to learn to cook for myself very early. i hate the stereotype of "the wife/girlfriend/woman as cook." i cook with friends, with boyfriends, but never for them. i am not domestic. i don't want to be boxed into that corner. may you have many more exciting (non)domestic adventures with your luuurve!

Heather Rose said...

I tried the whole "Suzy Homemaker" thing for about the first 3 months of my marriage. Then I realized, I never aspired to be that kind of gal.

I'm an ocd artist. I paint, write, draw, sing, play guitar and clean like nobody's business. None of this cooking business for me...UNLESS we do it together.

The husband person and I are on year 6 of our happy marriage, and it's worked out thus far. ^_^

Whit said...

A meal plan! hahahaha

Lorien said...

My favorite is a filipino dish called pancit and lumpia... I can't seemt o cook american foods, but that's because my mother couldn't cook it either. Neither could her mother before that. I was destined to never cook. That's just how it is.

Amanda Rose said...

Dude, you live in Denver! Like Dean from on the Road! Fuck yeah!!!!

The Savvy Soybean said...

You're lucky your bf likes to cook!! Mine thinks that throwing pop-tarts in a toaster is a culinary achievement.

I recently posted a recipe you might like that takes literally like 8 minutes to throw together with only 5 ingredients. Minimal effort. My bf loved it when I made it for him!!

http://www.thesavvysoybean.com/1/post/2009/12/savvys-night-in-easy-pasta-with-sun-dried-tomato-pesto.html

LiLu said...

Lexa's meatloaf cupcakes. Forever and always and THEY LAST FOR DAYS.

miss lucille said...

i loved this post! it made me laugh and smile, and think as well. - love your blog. :)

Shannon Ashley said...

My favorite thing to cook that my mom taught me to make and I used to make for my ex was chicken parmesan.. I called it "love chicken" hahaha. You should try it! Its pretty easy, even I could do it. And really, chicken and spaghetti are two of my favorite meals so why not

Ams said...

I stick with Rachel Ray's 30 minute meals because I uhhhhhh suck at cooking.

Thankfully S and I aren't living together yet (haha I think this might be the only reason I am thankful we are long distance!?) In the meantime I have to get my ass in cooking gear - because apparently his mom is the god of cooking.

Blah blah blah.

Rachael said...

I actually like cooking, but my loves and my tastes differ a lot. Well, maybe not our tastes, per se, but the fact that he could live off pizza and wings and I would like to eat salads. But...I use a lot of Rachael Ray's recipe's too. They usually use pretty common ingredients that are easy to find and use. They're flavorful, and a lot are healthy for us girls too!

Jacque said...

Aw this post is really cute!! My fiance and I like to cook together a lot! Our favorite meal to cook is turkey tacos which are a healthy alternative to his own vat of grease tacos! I'm having similar issues with learning how to live with someone else. The idea of compromising everything that you are accustomed to for someone else is a little daunting. Thanks for sharing this with us!!

kage said...

I actually just made a big lasagna tonight for the first time in my life. We're getting married this year so I'm trying to fast-track my domestic training so that I can be a good wife (ha ha). My favourite thing to make is squash curry.....it's vegan actually, and neither of us are, but it's delicious!!! I've posted a few of my favourite recipes on my blog. The lasagna was really rewarding though!! And not actually that hard...just takes a few hours start to finish. And the best part.....lunch for the next 3 days!!!!

I love your comment about the "signature" thing to cook that everyone asks for....I'm still working on it! Good luck to you :)

Eva O'Dell said...

I can't cook but I'm Italian... So if it's anything, it's usually pasta.

Chelsea Talks Smack said...

eva- i'm ITALIAN TOOO! I'm just a disgrace.

Victoria-H said...

Thanks !! :D
Awesome, hope you had a wonderful xmas, and happy new year (well soon ^^)

Tiffany said...

just wanted to comment back and say "hi"

tea for tessa said...

I am your straight out of the book domestic little housewife without being a wife or living with my now boyfriend (but we plan on it soon). I love to clean, cook, and anything else stereotypical.

Luckily I have the boyfriend who thinks my potato pancakes are divine (aka easily pleased). I grew up with a good cook for a mother so I try my hardest. I'm good at cooking but I feel like that will come in more so when we are actually moved in.

The book "How To Cook Everything" by Mark Bitman is really good. It's simple and has a ton of options.

Also www.tastespotting.com is swell.

Good luck!

Arushi Khosla (FabBlab) said...

Chelsea, your posts are always so freakin funny.
And ahahah I can barely freeze ice or toast some bread :P
I nearly burned the house down while attempting to make some fudge. I kid you not. I am now barred from the stove, oven and microwave.

Betty Manousos:cutand-dry.blogspot.com said...

Thank you so much for your nice comments!
I'm folllowing you and i just love your blog!.
Have a very happy New Year and wishing you all the very best for 2010!
:)

Pierrot le Fou said...

haha love the blog!

Oh my days, my dad could only cook stir fry and pasta throughout all my childhood, it was painful!

The easiest meal I can cook is chinese soup- stock, soy sauce, shredded onions and meat and veg of choice... I think I've made it too many times though haha

favourite meal is toad-in-a-hole/yorkshire puddings mmmm

samboy said...

thanks for stopping by my blog! :)

I have always been a mother hen and everyone I've lived with (excluding parents) have been lazy buggars, so luckily for them, I've always done the cooking.

Embrace cooking though, its super fun! :) x

Bloggin' Bama Girl said...

Sounds just like our house! Sweet Britches eats nothing unless fried in large amounts of grease. And since I don't have any formiable "homemaker" skills, he cooks all the time.... I've gained 12 lbs. since we moved in together.

jnyfritz said...

i am still trying to figure out the whole feed the family thing, but even still trying to figure it out we got married in the meantime! the most infuriating thing i get is when i ask what they want and the response is what do we have? HATE IT!!!!!

SassyGirl said...

The idea of cooking together is beautiful - and idealistic. I don't really think it's realistic though, nor will you have time to keep it up in the long run.
Like you said, there's a lot of compromise when you're living together, but that's all part of building a life together right? Because whatever schedule you come up, that'll be YOUR schedule.

I would say, definitely try to learn to cook a few dishes, even if you're not regularly "the chef."
As for take-out, you can decide to do it once or twice a week without hammering down an exact schedule.

Tara said...

Cooking has never been my thing. My mom worked and went to school while we were growing up, so our idea of a homecooked meal was hot dogs and macaroni and cheese.

However, now that I'm a wife, I have been trying to cook more. Baked ziti is my favorite thing to cook cuz its soooo easy and always good.

Mrs. MidAtlantic said...

The only fights Hubby and I have ever had have been over the question "What's for dinner"! That has got to be the most difficult question to answer.

My favorite thing to cook though? Pork tenderloin. It's easy and always tastes good, no matter how it's prepared.

angryredhead said...

Ugh, I really have to learn to cook before I get married. When I was five years old, my mother found me copying out recipes in a notebook so I wouldn't have to do it when I had a husband.

Chrissie Williams said...

i love that you'll cook TOGETHER! that's the best way to do it, and romantic at the same time.

unfortunately, my fiance has forgotten how to cook since we moved in together...

which is ironic, considering he made me scallops and shrimp early in our relationship ALL BY HIMSELF.

i consider it learned helplessness.

but we both do it... suddenly, i haven't the strength to carry a "whole laundry basket" down to the basement washer.

which is when i say, "come hither boy!"

:)

Court said...

I am really good at a bowl of Captain Crunch. Maybe a glass of wine and call it a night. Who wouldn't be happy with that kind of a dinner?

ST said...

I recently moved out on my own and have learned that cooking and leftovers can be a girls best friend when living on a budget - and having a disposal income that general goes to new shoes. For holiday this year my family bought me many gifts for the kitchen! Take it slow and start with dishes you like to eat. With the winter months upon us, Soup seems to be an easy one pot option. I used a recipe from my grandmother and I kid you not, people thought I slaved over it all day; when in actuality it only took one hour. Add some french bread on the side and your good to go!

Enjoy!

anhesty said...

i love to make the easy and fast recipe for chicken pot pie but not in a pie.

chicken breast
cream of mushroom soup
onions
peas and carrots (frozen)
and pepperidge farm pasty shells

cut the chicken in chunks saute them with the onions with salt and pepper (to taste)

in a small soup pot put in your cream of mushroom soup and add a lil bit of water (I just eye it)

and then add the carrots and peas and then the chicken. medium heat until it bubbles.

meanwhile bake the pastry sheet. cut them up in small squares to eat with the soup.

voila!

Just A Girl said...

With all 685484 comments, you may not see this one, but trust me, if you don't have one? Buy a crockpot like, yesterday. Easiest thing ever. I usually just chop up a few chicken breasts, some potatoes, onions, and carrots (all in big chunks to save time), throw in some chicken broth and spices and turn it on low in the morning.

Here are a couple more easy ones:
2 bags of boil in the bag brown rice
A couple of chicken breasts, again chopped in big pieces
Half a yellow onion chopped up
A small can of green chilies
A jar of salsa
1 can of cream of mushroom (or onion whatever) soup
Grated cheese

1. Sautee the chicken with the onions and chilies and remove when it's almost done. Season it with whatever you want.
2. Boil the rice at the same time.
3. Mix the salsa and soup together.
4. Dump it all in a casserole dish and mush together. Top with cheese. Bake 30 minutes @350.

I love that recipe because you can add black beans if you want, leave out all the salt, make it as spicy as you like, etc.

If you like crab meat, my old roommate used to make pasta, sautee (usually imitation) crab meat with fresh garlic in a little butter, and then top it all with parmesan. It was surprisingly awesome for as quick and easy as it is.

Melissa said...

I had the same issue when I first moved in with my husband (then boyfriend)! My room was a disaster, I could cook only ramen noodles, I was not even close to domestic! Then, I realized it's actually fun to try new recipes. I got a bunch of cookbooks and just started trying things.
My favorites are one-dish meals. They look all fancy and taste like it was really hard, but it's easy as hell.
I'll send you a few recipes if you want...

Plaid Guru said...

holy shit you have a lot of comments here! looks like you are set for life on the cooking recipe thing.

my two cents: tacoes.

i lurve making tacoes with extra lean ground beef and veggies and sour cream and all that good stuff. soft or hard shell, both are good. they're pretty easy as long as you can cook a pan of hamburg, drain it, pour some water on it and then mix in the taco seasoning. the rest is just spooning and cutting.

DElish.

linlah said...

A one pan, stove top roast I taught my son. He recently made it for his new in-laws and got rave reviews.

MoreThanMyOwnLife said...

Haha oh dear. I love to cook. Hit up allrecipes.com So many good recipes.

Accidental Londoner said...
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Accidental Londoner said...

Ah the dramas of communal cuisine! Always harder when you live with someone else who is a self-professed domestic goddess - I end up feeling like I can't even make toast properly! You have my sympathies. And sorry for making you miss London!

Michelle said...

How to Boil Water by Food Network Kitchens is the cookbook that changed my life, I'd totally recommend it!

ShanaRose said...

I'm from a fend for yourself family too! It's probably part of the reason I was so fat as a kid, I was eating bagels and cereal for dinner three nights a week. (I still crave cereal at night.)

I started learning to cook with cook books first, then figured out what I liked and began experimenting with spice.

I'm with Grace too though, foodie blogs are very inspirational.

Here's one of my favorite, kinda but not really healthy quick eats: immerse brussel sprouts in boiling water and let boil until tender. While boiling cook up three to five slices of bacon. Remove the bacon, blot off extra grease, and chop coarsely. THEN when the little sprouties are ready, strain them and put them in the same pan you cooked the bacon in, turn the heat on low, add the chopped bacon back in, salt and pepper to taste.

Mmmmm, bacon brussel sprouts. Magnifique!

Cass said...

Ugh, just the idea of trying to get my boyfriend and I on the same page for a TIME for dinner is hard enough. He's that guy who's mom had dinner ready at 5pm every day and I was lucky if I had dinner on the table by 7:30pm.

We go back and forth w/meals as well, but he does know how to cook a little. The problem is that he'd rather have a ham & cheese sandwich every single day for dinner instead. I like variety, even if that variety is cereal one day and yogurt or cheese & crackers the next.

I think my resolution needs to be cooking more. I can bake fine (and even cook) is just don't WANT TO.

Sydnie said...

You crack me up! I'm terrible at cooking, myself. But there's a slight problem in the fact that I live for food; no pun intended. Oh well ... maybe I'll have to learn to break out my cook books! Or just order take-out for the rest of my life ...

Sydnie
www.takemeouttotherunway.blogspot.com

Elizabeth said...

I'm always the cook. I make a mean breakfast for dinner. The secret is using the bacon drippings in the eggs, plus milk and butter. They always come out perfect.

Recently I've been trying "meat and potatoes" kinds of meals that boys like...I got my dad's recipe, which calls for eight hours of cooking. What?

We'll see if that happens.

Cafe Fashionista said...

I like to think of myself as more of an Unodemstic Goddess. Basically, that's just a nice way of saying that the majority of what I eat is cold, toasted (and oftentimes burnt), and ready-made. My forays in the kitchen most often go awry. I too eat a lot of peanut butter straight from the jar!! :)

Emily Jane said...

When we first moved in together cooking was always something of a challenge.. I'd come from a series of apartments with lousy flatmates and convenience food, and he'd come straight from home where his mum would've been making breakfast, dinner, any snacks he wanted, anything at all... so the first few months we kind of tried stuff together, before falling into a bit of a schedule of pasta, pizza, sometimes meat & potatoes... over the holidays though we got an AWESOME cookbook, with pictures and a whole section on meals under 30 minutes - so this week we're actually going to try a couple of meals from scratch.

He has the same issue with sodium in stir fry sauces too, so once he tried making a sauce from scratch - the meal basically ended up rice and vegetables covered in a slimy, watery, tasteless substance and I refused to ever let him do it again lol

Dannie said...

wow, this is a great post! im not too domestic either but this seems greeeat!

Genie of the Shell said...

May I suggest hiring a houseboy to cook meals for you and your boyfriend?

My man and I took in a friend who needed a place to live and just happens to cook for a living and have a French culinary education. We never have to fight about dinner! One of us says, "Honey, what's for dinner?" and the other says, "I dunno, ask Mr. C."

Then we stare at Mr. C, and Mr. C sighs and grumbles about having to cook all day at work and then whips up a four-star meal out of the scraps and condiments in the fridge, and we all eat happily ever after.

THOSE are my favorite dinners!

Rebekah J said...

My boyfriend may be a chef, but we are SO not gourmet at home. Lots of box dinners - Hamburger Helper is always a favorite - and many, many corndogs.

Sometimes we make rolls in the oven instead of buying a bagful. That's fancy.

Sahakiel said...

I think my favourite meal for cook is curry, I'm an expert doing it!!

Thanks for your sweet comment, and have a happy NYE!!

Margarita said...

Well I suppose I'm a little late on this post seeing as you have ONE HUNDRED THIRTY EIGHT comments. Jesus Lord I'm a little jealous. Regardless, I am totally with ya on the 'being a girlfriend suddenly means I have to cook?' garbage?? What is that. Seriously.

Well, since I've had this fight many many many times in my life, we usually end up ordering pizza. I've probably eaten more pizza in the last 6 years than I have in the 20 years preceeding that. We eat SO much pizza. So of course, we're trying to stop and blah blah and I'm trying to cook. But it sucks.

I can currently make hamburgers (like bomb ones), really good spaghetti sauce, and fajitas. Those are my bomb meals. Other than that I can't make anything.

Good luck to you . And me too. :)

Carrie said...

Hi. Thanks for visiting my blog! PS I LOVE Stephanie Klein too, I actually have a picture with her because I went to her very first reading in NY when Straight Up and Dirty came out.

As for fun food blogs, my cousin-in-law has a pretty good one: http://carascravings.blogspot.com/

I mean, I don't cook so I can't really vouch for the recipes, but the pictures are pretty and seem to use impressive ingredients. Heh.

spunkynewyorker said...

LOL. great post! I usually eat cereal for dinner when I'm sick of take-out. I'm glad most guys I"ve dated love eating out! Thanks for posting to my blog by the way =)

penny threads. said...

hehe. this entry made me laugh, a lot. i can totally sympathize but luckily my boyfriend loves to cook and i work more days a week than he does so it's generally accepted that he cooks, though i will occasionally when i'm in the mood. i'm still learning his dislikes though so i sometimes include an ingredient he can't stand. :\ great post!

A Diary of Lovely said...

I feel you!
you made me laugh, thanks, will come for more for sure :)

Bayjb said...

Oh this made me laugh because we have the same conversations at home when I visit. I'm not a big cooker at all but friends at work have been good about encouraging me. I like making chili and now with my new crock pot, I'm ready to bust it out!

Shannon of ** Happiness Is...** said...

I'm all about cooking together too. Except one person has to be the sous chef b/c we have control issues ;) Our newest thing we like to cook together is homemade pizza. We get the already-formed dough from Trader Joes, add our own toppings (he's a big meat man, I'm a veggie girl) and viola, we're both happy :)

P.S. Can I use "Come hither boy!" and "What say you?" too? Love these.

Ruta said...

Haahaha, your post was so fun to read, and pretty funny too...although if it wasn't meant to be funny, I'm very very sorry. But nonetheless, I loved your post. Truly wonderful.

Thankfully I'm still many years away from living with someone.

I love making omelets.

bananas. said...

um yea...i know what you mean. i'm the most undomesticated girl. i can clean, decorate but cook? oh hell now.

Elisabeth said...

Spaghetti is my favorite last-minute dish because it always turns out fabulous and it's super quick and easy.

When I have time, though, I like to make homemade pizza or roast chicken.

Ashley Pizarro said...

Great post! You are too funny!

I dislike cooking greatly...well ok that's not all true. I just don't like the mess that it makes. I recently made lettuce wraps that were delicious! Let me know if you want the recipe!

Krysten Hartenstein said...

Although I was raised to sit around the table every night with a home cooked meal, I have a hard time doing that with my hubby. We both get into the "lets just have sandwiches and call it a night" funk. So sad.

Mai Harris said...

I used to be the exact same way. But now I'm the one with perfectly planned meals and the handmade seasonal placemats. It took having a kid to whip me into shape, but you might be able to get going early. Start with simple meals that you really like to eat - so you'll have good motivation to cook. Once you get into it and see that can do it, you'll feel more confident. Good luck!

Ari said...

Heard awesome things about you on 20SB so stopping in to say hi!

Lol, I am miserable at cooking, but I totally agree on the cooking together bit.

Oh and cookbooks help. :)

Cheryl said...

Wait wait, you mean I have to learn to cook when I live with someone?... I'm screwed now.

Mara said...

haha aw fights like that are funny to look back on later. But at the time so frustrating. Especially after the holidays I hate eating too much..I'll get used to it!

Gracie said...

I better get domestic very soon because I'm going to be a wife! At the moment my best meal is anything with mince. I don't even think they have a name.

Have to learn to make lasagna and pasta. Have an awesome new year!

JennyMac said...

I am uber domestic especially in la cucina. I love Giada's cookbooks and have about 20 cookbooks just on baking. YUM YUM and YUM. You dont have to eat plain M&Ms for dinner when you can bake them into brownies!

Nathalie said...

have a wonderful New Year's Eve
xx
Nathalie

Matt said...

check out http://cooktobang.com

Doni showed me this website- there's a ton of easy shit for you two to cook on there.

Red Boots said...

I don't cook. My boyfriend does. i had the great stir-fry disaster of 2008, where I made stir-fry that made my boyfried sick in his mouth, so since then I've been banned from the kitchen and I'm quite happy with that set-up!

cocorosa said...

love this post!!! :)

Giovanna said...

love this post. that's the way to do it - cook together, even if it's mushy. :)
happy new year! glad i found your blog!

MelRoXx said...

Awesome post!

Phoebe Rose said...

Happy New year!
Thanks for your lovely comment :)
Ha this post has made me realise I need to become a better cook or I'm gonna end up eating all the wrong stuff - boys can get away with eating rubbish!

http://flowergirlfashion.blogspot.com

Eileen said...

Ohhh, Chelsea! Actually...I love making stir fry or lasagna, because they are both so smack lovin' easy :)! I don't cook as often as I'd like, but at my age...{way older than you}...I've learned that men love, not only watching a woman cook, but hearing a woman Talk about what/how they are going to cook {in reality, I talk food better than I cook it}...and I'll bet when you make that pb&j {with the edges trimmed off} you are Golden!
ahh, you just gave me a New Year's resolution...cook more!

Suburban Sweetheart said...

Spiral mac & cheese and sriracha sauce. Yep. That's about the extent of my cooking abilities.

Laura @ Hungry and Frozen said...

You crack me up! But definitely laughing WITH not AT :D I love to cook, so that's what I do...but man I cannot clean up after myself. Or keep a room tidy for five minutes. And I'm hopeless with a washing machine too. So it balances out :) If I'm a little bit hungry but don't feel like a huge meal, I just steam or boil up a huge pan of edamame beans (like the ones you get at wagamama) and pick at them all night...so yum, filling, and really good for you!

Jessica said...

Together is definitely the way to go...cause if it tastes shitty? You're both to blame. Which is awesome.

My favorite meal to cook? Well, I don't really *do* cooking without exploding something so...

Truthfully, I only cook if I'm eating with the husband. I never cook for myself. I don't really see a point? Plus, the husband says I require supervision. Whatever. I only left the oven on by accident three times....

PS? Thanks for your good thoughts for Maddie and her seizures! I really, truly appreciate it.

LovelyLor said...

I feel like since Christmas all I have eaten is Cookies! I need to get cooking

indigotangerine said...

I do enjoy baking, but why bake for others when I could just chow down that cake by myself. Happy New Year!
-indigo

chloe said...

haha!
this happens in our house all the time - im like you (i also illogically think that surviving on toast and tea will leave more money for shopping), and my bf's like your's! good to see that other have this problem as well :p

floreta said...

how do you get soo many comments? haha. well the idea of being that woman scares the shit out of me. i will never be that! and, i do want to learn how to cook.. that's a goal for 2010 in fact.. but, i just well never be that 'perfect'. :P

fadetoblack said...

er firstly you are hilarious!
secondly i don't cook... unless toast counts??

Lauren said...

That was my solution as well. I like cooking to an extent but was never taught how. He had to live on his own long enough that he figured out some basics. So together we can make a pretty good meal. And a cooking magazine called 'Cooking for Two' really helped take the stress out of it. Because then I don't have to do math.

Anne. said...

Wow, your bf was living the lifeeeee as a kid, haha. I love your guys' solution for it, though, to cook together and to compromise. It's a fun activity that, in a sense, glues you two together even more. Anyway, you've got a ton of comments on this post and I doubt you'll even read this, but I just wanted to say thank you so much for the kind words you left on my previous blog post. It truly means a lot.

Happy New Year!

repliderium.com said...

I am a cooking junkie-swing by my blog and check out the "Crap that I cook" category. It has step by step instructions that always include drinking a lot of wine while stirring and flipping, etc.
I think the cooking together deal is a kick ass idea. Add booze to the equation and it's PERFECT!

Cuddleslut said...

rigatoni, ragu sauce + garlic sausage out pushed out of the casing and fried, bake in the oven with cheese on top.
MMMMMMMMMMMMMMMMMMMMMMMMMMM

Lacey said...

Someone really should write a instruction manual for living with men. I'm planning on writing a book called "How to Train Your Husband"...if I ever figure it out. I'll make millions right? Hubby and I have the dinner argument all the time. And no one ever tells you that you have to give up some of your favorite foods if your man doesn't like them. I mean, I guess I could cook those dishes anyway, but then I'd be a balloon too after I ate all that. Sigh. It's a good thing men are cute.

Minus75 said...

You rock. Both of you. Happy New Year.

Anonymous said...

I used to cook something good every night,when I had little kids and a husband who never bothered to stick around for the dinner, or the little kids.But, I kept trying until I found a fabulous man who loves to cook! And, usually he would prefer to make it, than eat my version of the recipe! LOL! Plus little kids just can't stay away from him! But, I love Savannah's pasta recipe! And, baked chicken with lemon is always good.Salad's are filling and good for you, if you put all the good things in!

The Seeker said...

I'm starting to get an age that allows me to do just what I want when it comes to domestic issues... lol

HAPPY NEW YEAR!!!!

xoxo

nicoleantoinette said...

I'm a great cook and should totally not be single. This is so not the point of this post, but I thought I'd share. I have eleventy thousand recipes, call me frantically for them anytime.

Kristin said...

I make killer tacos. It's the one thing that doesn't stress me out to cook. Baking I could do all day long...But I don't think a diet of cupcakes is the healthiest way to go. Ah ha. Happy new year!

lifeintheleftlane said...

We have this same debate in my house. My husband could eat the same thing everyday, while I like variety. If I eat it once in a week, I don't want to eat it again 3 days later.

To overcome the drama, we do try to cook and plan things together, which definitely helps!

I can't pick a favorite because I like cooking. As long as it's good, I'll more than likely love it! =)

Sizzle said...

This is what I worry about if I were to shack up with someone. How would we negotiate everything? I am 36 and set in my ways. Maybe it's impossible for me? Sigh.

This is super yummy (if you eat fish) and EASY:

http://find.myrecipes.com/recipes/recipefinder.dyn?action=displayRecipe&recipe_id=1873158

nic said...

I'm kind of in the opposite boat here. I'm trying to learn to cook (because my mom is of the sort who just throws stuff together sans recipe and can't really tell me how to make anything because you know "you just do it" yeah....) and my boyfriend keeps telling me not to worry about it- we'll just go out or order in and then won't have to grocery shop or do the dishes after. I admit, he has a point and it's really nice to know I don't ever have to cook a damn thing. BUT, I've got all the kitchen stuff and sometimes want to. It's an uphill battle.

sara said...

I love your blog already and just started. You totally introduced me the word housegirlfriend, because really it should be a standard term for all us women living in sin. Or maybe I'm just late to the game. Anyways, if you are successful on how to get him to cook with you, please draft Chapter 3 "how to get the guy to do whatever the heck you want - without tears" because the closest I can get the houseboyfriend to cook, are when there is bread, cheese and ketchup and he suddenly wants to cook grilled cheese 24/7. Hope you ended up eating m&m's.

kwerk said...

Thank goodness G & I both like to cook, him more than me. I like to bake more...so we create a good balance when one or both of us is in the kitchen. Most of our compromise will have to do with cleaning & organization I think...

Geezees Custom Canvas Art said...

i am not a fan of cooking, but i have been eating way too much take out too!

Nichole said...

Speaking Tudor! Haha! That made laugh out loud. I do that too but not for any reasons that are legitimate. Just because I'm weird. It happens.

Thanks for the comment on my blog. I'm so new to all of this and it's exciting to make blogging buddies. I'll be following. :)

Nichole

Martin said...

"Here's how to live with your boyfriend: Chapter two- Change your eating habits and learn to cook, bitch."

Awesome.

Kath said...

Do what you love.

When I was married, I cooked for the first 5 years. HATED IT! When he asked me what I wanted for my 6 yr Anniversary, I said I wanted him to cook. So he did! (he loved to cook)

So he cooked 5 nights a week, I cleaned. (I love to clean)

Weekends were fend for yourself or meals out.

Good luck!

Tink in My Closet said...

It may not qualify as a meal!! But I love baking cakes of all sorts! It's so thrilling for me!

 
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