Friday, February 19, 2010

Let your freak flag fly, especially if your flag is made of thongs, or cheese- or something weird.


"I want a life where I stay in the Presidential Suite and call on people to bring me chocolate covered gummy bears and champagne. And, I'll wear a silk robe all day long. And take bubble baths....and wear false eyelashes to bed."

Those words came out of my mouth.

Very seriously in fact, while I was lusting over my girlfriend Kim Kardashian. I mean, fuck, I want a reason to go to "hair and makeup"...and have a traveling stylist on hand in case something is puckering weird, or I forgot to bring Spanx. Or when I'm feeling fat and need someone to throw me in something that looks like a trash bag, but sexy. The Kardashians and I have kindred spirits, if you hate them, well then- you hate me too. They're a little crazy pants and wear entirely too much makeup and say inappropriate things in public and tell their mom to fuck off, then tackle her to the ground and rub their boobs in her face, until it's all copacetic. Yep, sounds like my household.

I've always wanted to be famous, since I was a little tot singing Annie while running around naked with nothing but a muff and Pearl earrings on. For a long time I felt bad for saying that? Not the naked part. I felt like it made me a bad person, for openly admitting that "yes, I want fame." The reason for wanting to be famous is actually much more complex, more than wanting to buy vintage Cocoa Chanel dresses and having people draw creepy pencil sketches of your face... (if this ever happens I'm retiring) it has much more to do with it than that- I want to be acknowledged for doing what I love, in the biggest most grand way possible. And not only that, but I want to do it ALL. Every little. tiny. dream. I want to accomplish. The big ones are no brainers....but I want the resources to do them all, in the most grandiose way imaginable.

I've come to realize, the people we love BEST, don't apologize for who they are.
You can't win your way into peoples heart by apologizing.

Whether you're writing a blog, or strutting down a red carpet. Whether you're at a dinner table and you're voicing your opinion, you're standing your ground in an argument, or you're out on a date just hoping that they'll "like you" enough to see you again. Or you have this burning desire to create a rock band and sing Native American songs translated into French, while wearing band uniforms and pink eyeliner. Whatever's clever. So often we're forced to be chameleons so we don't rock the boat too hard, or make people uncomfortable. We just want to be "liked...." we want people to call us and think we're cool. Everyone wants their own "Cheers" bar, of "Friends", we all want to BELONG somewhere.
The memo we so often miss is the one that says, "you'll find your place by being yourself." So we put ourselves through this roundabout of flaming hoops, (or sororities? depending on who you are) to try and just fit.

Sometimes the idea of being unabashedly who you are is scary....because if people don't like it, then they essentially, don't like you....but IF THEY DO, then they're loving the spirit, the heart, and the mind that is YOUR OWN. They're connecting with your soul.....and that's so much fucking better.

I won't apologize for who I am....for the flaws and the quirks, and the awkward things I say, or how sometimes I linger a little too long in a conversation because I don't know how to get out of it. Or how sometimes I talk too much about penises in front of strangers. Or that I want to be famous and see my name in lights and do VIP shit...with private jets...and umbrella holders....(too much?) Things of that nature...

I certainly won't apologize for the things I say on this blog....now, or in the past. And I hope that none of you lovely bloggers out there will either- this is our space, to scream or cry, whine or act crazy. This is the soap box we get to stand on, and if I feel like standing proud and screaming pure gibberish, or scatting, or singing Alanis Morisette's "Jagged Little Pill" album on repeat, or saying fuck until my face turns blue- then I WILL.

This is for the freaks, the Lady Gagas, the Kim Kardashians, the lovers, the fighters, the people who dare to wake up in the morning and put on their face, and be shamelessly, messily, and BRILLIANTLY who they are.

Wear every shade of your dysfunction proudly, we will love you in all of your unkempt, delirious, SPLENDOR.


This is for YOU, whoever it is that you are..... Shine brightly.


In the meantime I'm gonna go put on more lipstick.


Three adjectives that describe YOU____________????






89 comments:

Erica said...

Fucking weird/inappropriate

Big Red said...

A-FUCKING-MEN GIRL! I love this post everyday! I think I will print it out and post it in cubicle at work, in my car, by my bed, on my fridge, on the wall in front of my toilet (for when I don't have any good magazines), and maybe I'll make a very tiny version for my wallet.

Happy Friday!

Grace Boyle said...

passionate, gregarious, irreverent

Woop.

Also, reminds me of this post I wrote similar to this: (http://smallhandsbigideas.com/change/perfection-is-overrated/)

AND reminds me of Miss Carrie Bradshaw: “I don't judge others. I say if you feel good with what you're doing, let your freak flag fly.”

The Boob Nazi said...

Can I call myself hilarious without being conceited?

Erica said...

One more thing though - I LOVED being in a sorority, and I wasn't jumping through hoops to belong anywhere or conform, I was weird and fucked up and some people loved it and some people hated it...but I don't think being Greek = poopy cause that's just a box too :)

Brittany said...

Oh how I love the Kardashians and GaGa :-)

I liked this post.. a lot.

caring, independent, confident.

madelyn said...

you're incredible.

Meghan said...

OMG - my husband said the reason he married me is because I "let my freak flag fly"! Ha!

My three words: quirky, passionate, effervescent!

chelsea rebecca said...

this is insanely wonderful! and so incredible because i was having such a blue day and this is exactly what i needed to hear. so thank you. for this. i might have to bookmark this post to remind myself. i've been finding myself apologizing a ton for my thoughts and opinions this week. everything in this post is perfect!

{and annie!!? i love it. i was molly in a pretty big show of it when i was little. and i would go around saying "you'll stay up, till this dump shines like the top of the chrysler building!!"}

Chelsea Talks Smack said...

erica- Ah, fair enough. I admit, I've judged it- but I also know nothing about it...so it is easier for me to judge. Plus, you're cool..and I like you- so, sororities everywhere just won points

big red- THANK YOU :) I need to remind myself with a tiny wallet sized version too ;)

grace-carrie bradshaw, she's basically the best ever

boob nazi- YES, OF COURSE. Conceited is allowed on my blog. We'll call it "confident"

brittany- theyre the best

madelyn- thank you so much :)

meghan- thus I like you and I like your husband ;)

buttersandroses said...

I love love love this post.

flighty, genuine, kind

Chelsea Talks Smack said...

chelsea- I'm glad it could pick you up a bit ;) Birtual hugs for a better day AND DUDE, THAT'S THE BEST LINE IN THE WHOLE SHOW.

my bat lightning heart said...

This post was fantastic!
Love it!

dreamer. lover. over analyzer.

Eternal Blast said...

INTENSE, FEISTY and FUCKING-Perfect!!!!
Hyphenating the last one makes it one word....

And trust me I had to apologize so many times, or kept quiet, and at the end IT IS NOT WORTH IT!!!!!

Middle Name Marie said...

I've given up on apologizing. No one forgives anyone when they apologize anyway--they do it on their own terms. I will never apologize for who I am.

feisty, analytical, filter-free

emmajames said...

Love this!
Emotional. Creative. Loverly. and Crazy.

Herding Cats said...

Words to describe me: awkward, ridiculous, gluttenous.


Loved this post!

Susie Q said...

This is such a cool post that it made me <3 you just a little bit more...

My three adjectives?
inappropriate, melancholic, nice.

I don't willfully call myself nice, I think it's a bit weak, but I do have to admit that most of the time I'm just a little bit too nice for my own good... :)

xx

Nahl said...

DUUUUDEE. I, too, want to print out all your posts and stick it up somewhere i can read everyday.
I love what you write-and I was reading your tweets, so TRUST ME...when you blog everyone reads, friday or not.
Also, umm..I am..sweet, impulsive and judgemental. (can't help it, i am).

hannahkaty.com said...

sassy. thoughtful. quirky.

K-Tee said...

absolutely LOVED your post.

me: color outside (the) lines.

SupahMommy said...

can't touch this


you are fucking awe.some.

someone sent me hear because i think.... i was spewing big rambunctious messy dreams tonight!

cheers ! see you on the red carpet

xoxo
supah

SupahMommy said...

also:
she can't spell


someone sent me HERE. mother fuck.
xoxo
supah

Jen said...

Thank you for this post, Chelsea. You know, I spent so many years of my precious childhood and adolescence trying SO HARD to fit in and be what everyone wanted me to be (or so I thought) that I LOST MYSELF. I'm not sure who I am... but I sure as hell am trying to find out!

Shibby said...

Wonderfully inspiring :)
I'm always myself which is generally weird and random. I hate being put in a 'box' I'm the most contrairy person ever and if I'm put in a box I'll totally go against it, this annoys the bf to no end but it's who I am =)

Harlow Darling said...

Ahaha, I love how you speak your mind when you write, it's so refreshing to read something so sassy!

Miss Angie said...

I love your writing, and I love how you lay it all out there, tell it like it is, and don't feel sorry for it.

Thank you, I need to hear that once in a while.

Heather Rose said...

When you're famous, will you still blog? I'm pretty sure I'll miss it, if you don't.

I am: artistic, creative, bewildered

Liya said...

wow great post! ummmm driven, kind, and sarcastic as hell

myglitteringcreation.blogspot.com

Rachael said...

I'm glad you posted because
1. it was amazing
2. i'm at work right now catching up on blogs

Sometimes it's hard to decide if you want to "fit in" or just be yourself. Recently, I've gone with being myself...it's SO much easier!

3 words that describe me?
opinionated, hard-working, smart

Ansley said...

Great post!

hmmm...
impatient, bizarre, free-spirited

hope that last part didn't sound conceited. haha definitely not what I was going for. :)

spleeness said...

I'm fairly new to your blog, but this just made me absolutely fall in love: "sometimes I talk too much about penises in front of strangers."
I just did a private fistpump. Bloggers unite!

lady lee said...

"...but IF THEY DO, then they're loving the spirit, the heart, and the mind that is YOUR OWN. They're connecting with your soul.....and that's so much fucking better."

This is one of those quotes that demands the expletive ending.

YES!

Chelsea Talks Smack said...

sleepness- if you fist pumped, we'd totally be friends.

Misery said...

creative, irresponsible, insane :)

AND this is yet another post that I should print and read like 20 times a day! You know, in case things won't work out for you (but I'm sure they will) you could have an amazing Plan B thing - you'd be the best motivational speaker EVER :) I mean, these posts are so incredibly filled with positive energy. And this one, especially, is great for me: I too often find myself apologizing for what I say/do etc - so yeah, I should just print this and read every day :)

And, btw, I think it takes some courage to admit: I've always wanted to be famous (basically, I mean the whole paragraph that starts with this sentence). It's more difficult this way, than - to never dare to admit it in case it wouldn't work out. You know, kind of false humbliness as a precaution.

the "L" spot said...

I hope you reach fame! So I can be like ohemmgee I loved her blog before she was loved by everyone!

i'm...loud.creative.&.responsible.

Marz said...

Hilarious and very true post!
I love how you said that you cant apologize for being who you are; some people need to be told this again and again.
Best three adjectives that describe me? Crazy (in a Mr. Burns meets Johnny Depp sorta way), loving, and sarcastic :P

OneCraftyFox said...

After reading your first sentence I was hooked!

Nora said...

three adjectives that describe me... worrywart, passionate, kind. (not necessarily in that order).

I hope you find/earn the fame that I'm sure you deserve!

V. said...

Your writing never fails to be a bright spot in my day. I love what you said about finding your place by being yourself, it's something I've been thinking a lot about lately. We become so consumed by society and culture that it's easy to lose track of ourselves.

3 adjectives: creative, vivacious and maniacal

kelzone said...

"This is for the freaks, the Lady Gagas, the Kim Kardashians, the lovers, the fighters, the people who dare to wake up in the morning and put on their face, and be shamelessly, messily, and BRILLIANTLY who they are."

i'm putting that quote on my mirror.

three words: rebel without (a) cause

Steph said...

totally spaztastic/crunknificent

Lexie said...

"in the mean time, i'm gonna go put on more lipstick"

you always crack me up!

meleah rebeccah said...

I LOVE LOVE LOVE The Kardashians . Khloe is my favorite.

The adjective that most accurately describes me is LOUD.

The warrior in me said...

You make me want to be so like me! I owe you for this! You actually make me eel better. Thank you :)

Me- Creative, smart, kind.

ablogofherown.wordpress.com said...

I love you, and the fact that you live your life in Bold 28 pt text.

Rock on.

Chelsea Talks Smack said...

I have to say, I want to individually email all of you and say how awesome I think your three adjectives are.... ;) and how much I feel so grateful to have readers that are so incredibly fantastic and beautiful. I love you guys.

Heather Grace said...

I freaking love this :)

A lot.

And my book collection at the present? First three Harry Potters (British versions), Stitch 'n' Bitch, and Life of Pi. The rest of my incredibly large book collection is resting at home in Mississippi :)

Chelsea Talks Smack said...

Heather- NICE! Stitch'n'bitch is fantassstic.

Morgan said...

This is great. I just want to say that I think people who hate the Kardashians are just jealous of them. People don't know why they are famous. I say if for no other reason, it's that they are absolutely hilarious. They may have had other happenings in the past that brought them to stardom but I thank God that they are here now. And here to stay.

Shy, worried, kind

Heidi Renée said...

You had me at chocolate-covered gummy bears.

s + b said...

amen, girl!

tidy, affectionate night owl.

katrina lauren said...

well this was a fun way to end a sunday night...you made me laugh and i enjoyed my little chuckle!
well....three words that describe me....
loyal, sensitive, and quirky...
oddly had my first date in 10 years the other night....and i'm proud to say i was completly me....the date was fabulous and it got him thinking....good news? hmmmm.....perhaps not. we shall see......but dating is different at 30....here i am...take me or leave me!
cheers!
xo.
k

Tamara Nicole said...

Ha ha you are hilarious!!! Glad you found my blog so I could find YOURS!

Ok I totally love Kim Kardashian even though sometimes I don't want to admit it. Amen to wanting a hair/makeup person, too bad I can't just hire one to live with me!

3 words for me: passionate, bubbly, goober-y, scatter-brained (ok that was 4)

Johana Hill said...

It feels like you're talking to me! We're having a conversation where I agree with everything you say! I love your spirit.

Alanis Morrisette on repeat? Hell yes!

:) erin said...

LOVE WATCHING THE KARDASHIANS! JUST LIKE YOU, I THOUGHT AS A KID I WAS DESTINED TO BE FAMOUS. NOW, SO HAPPY I'M NOT. :)
THANKS FOR VISITING MY BLOG AND I'M...
CRAFTY, TATTOOED, HAPPY

kim said...

chelsea,

i think i have a crush on you.

XXX, Kim

Shannon said...

I needed this post. I needed it really badly, and it came at the best time ever. I'm working really hard on trying to tone down my people pleasing habits (which basically make up 99% of my being) and I'm doing better. I'm going to save this, actually print it out, and keep it in my purse. I'm not kidding. THANK YOU.

Diane said...

Wow, this post really is my cup of tea, you couldn't have said it better! You really make me be more optimistic when I read your blog...

But 3 adjectives? Dreamy, ambitious, stuborn :P

kiss

ellejay419 said...

You can't win your way into peoples heart by apologizing.

LOVE this. Couldn't agree more and sometimes I think we need reminding of this.

Jill said...

great post
It's always hard trying to be yourself all the time, but once you've accomplished that, it's truly freeing.

Michelle said...

Emotional, silly, passionate!

T said...

I let my freak flag fly high daily on my blog.

This is the first time, I think ever, that I have felt like I am being true to myself and not compromising who I am for someone else.

I'm emotional, forceful and just plain ridiculous.

Cassie said...

thank you for the get well wishes!! love your blog :)

Emily said...

hear, hear!

Gainfully Unemployed said...

brilliant, wild, and introspective

Love the post - and the idea that we really should be pointing out what we like about others' delightfully dynamic eccentricities more often - seems we all find them to be delicious!

Linz said...

ok, i admit, i'm not the biggest fan of the kardashians, BUT i'm a big fan of people who say what they mean and say it loud. and girl, you say it loud and proud. rock on.

Matt said...

just an fyi here- when you and your love get famous, he promised me and my girl would be joining you two on a cruise boat...

just fyi...

Kelli said...

I LOVED THIS. It was so inspiring and cheered me up a bit!
Intelligent. Awkward. Content.

Phoenix said...

Hells-fucking-yeah.

I suppose you could use those as my three adjectives too.

Meghan said...

Whimsical/BadAss/Opinionated.

sarah said...

absolutely fucking amazing.

3 adjectives... headstrong, loving, honest

ChasingParadise said...

I swear. I'm having one of the hardest weeks ever, and I love that THIS is what I find. This post is just what I needed. Amen!

awkward, feisty, impatient

a little yellow button. said...

It's really refreshing that you're so bold and unafraid with your words. Three adjectives to describe me?

creative

romantic

a daydreamer

pen.ny said...

let your freak flag fly. jesus christ. i love you.

Jess said...

Unfortunately, all I could see in this post was the fake cheese photo. Totally the last time I give up real cheese for Lent. I'm not even Catholic, fuck sacrifice.

ColeAndJosephine said...

Can I get an amen? AMEN!!!

Katie said...

We all secretly or not-so-secretly wish we could say trite and contrived things like, "After the baby's born, everything's going to change - like we can't just up and go to Cabo" ... and be able to say it sincerely because that's about as bad as our lives could possibly get.

Oh yea ... ambitious, contemplative, methodical.

honestchitchat said...

Your posts always make me smile...we're long lost BFF's :) I'm crazy, obnoxious and faithful.

About the girl: said...

Underpaid. Overrated. Indecisive.

or...

Rollergirl. Toughgirl. Fatgirl.

Shut up and let me go said...

Hey, thanks for commenting on my blog, sometimes i feel like such a loser because i dont have that many followers...
i love the caption "Let your freak flag fly, especially if your flag is made of thongs, or cheese- or something weird."
and i completely agree...
keep following pleeeezzzz
luvvvvsss
Alice

kathleen said...

Oh my sweet baby Jesus, you're funny. Me? Yes, let's talk about me. Please. When I'm nervous and in front of a lot of people, I cuss too much. Oh, and let's be honest, great rack. It's the cursing and the boobs that really seem to win people over. :)

michelle said...

open minded, opinionated and awesome :)

this is just the kind of post i needed after the week i had. thanks :)

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Liv Lundelius said...

exactly!

thats why i called my label BLUSHLESS.
be yourself , and NEVER be ashamed of being you!

fabulous post!

my answer to the question what i want to become,
when grown up with 4 years i said:
"Famous !"(my mum was so ashamed...ah well!)
we can't help it, right?

Sebastian said...

I know it's a weak comment, but: very well said.

I feel very similarly (as you may have read :)

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