Friday, February 12, 2010

Who wouldn't want to be friends with THIS FACE???


"How cute!....we have friends!"

"Yay we have friends!" then, we chest bumped and shimmied at the Gods, like we were wearing an outfit from Toddlers and Tiara's, our sequins reflecting off the stage lights. Show 'em your teeth baybee!

This was the ridiculously nerdy conversation My Love and I just had this morning, while I attempted to be domestic and served him eggs with broken yolks. We nerded out so hard with excitement that lately our circle of friends has grown IMMENSELY (thank you internet...wow, fuck. That put me in the upper echelon of nerdiness just now... but I don't watch Twilight, or speak code? Do I gain points back? I also partied with Lenny Kravitz daughter once...? No? Nothing?)

When we first started dating I had just moved back from New York and he had just stopped being a Christian. So, basically....we didn't have any friends, or friends who didn't judge us for one reason or another. Reason 1. You left us for fame, fortune, and men that look like GQ models. Reason 2. You abandoned Jesus. (My Love's reason is so much deeper, I'm gonna stick with the vain stuff, cause I'm into "balance") He lost his core group when he realized he couldn't talk about sex, booze and rock & roll. Ya know, sinful shit. And I had to reestablish old friendships and find/build relationships that reflected my current lifestyle- or the one I wanted to see myself in as "an adult."

So we went on a mission- a Nerdscapade (Definition; people who were physically awkward in high school, that still have a complex about it- on a mission to find friends and take over the world, one cocktail & business card at a time, take that suckas) if you will; To A. stop nesting and watching Lifetime B. Break out of our "musician only" circle- because though our musician friends are lovely, they're generally broke, drunk, and flakey. All fun; all unreliable when you need someone to just-bring-the-fucking-chips-to-the-pot-luck. C. Stop flaking out. After all, we are those musician people I was just speaking of, with better hygiene. We decided to start saying "yes" to invitations, new friends, new opportunities and new experiences. And free booze.

Since the beginning of our Nerdscapade we have; Hosted a Taco Tuesday night (if melted cheese is involved I'm so there...) Taken various trips up to Boulder for internet awesomness like Ignite Boulder, gone on "double dates" with like minded couples, started a book club (this is my personal venture, any Denver/Boulder bloggers that want to be involved email me for details), and we've lengthened our life expectancy. This is fact and since I'm sensible (??), I need facts, otherwise I'd go on hibernating in solitude. Though that would be easier, I'd save so much money on mascara and pewter eyeshadow if I was less social...but hey, you win some you lose some. In this case, I win life. And who knows, possibly somewhere down the line more chances to wear an ugly bridesmaid dress and eat cake. If that's not a goal, then I don't know what is.

Figuring out a way to meld your dreams, your friendships, old and new isn't always easy. We wanted to find friends that we felt empowered us to feel and think exactly the way we ARE, not shadowed by who we think they want us to be. Then there's always the trick of finding a couple that each of you likes the other's significant other- nothing worse than two guys with a "bromance" when the girlfriends can't stand each other. And we have found those people!
We're laying the foundation now for future dinner parties vibrant with conversation, summertime adventures through our beautiful state and those evenings where everyone has one too many tequila shots and someone ends up doing a backspin. Or breaking a tooth.

We want to surround ourselves with people that inspire, debate, create, live their own personal "dream life"...... and we'll live ours. By deciding that's what we're seeking, those are the people we've found. No it isn't a prerequisite that you drink.....it's just magical that everyone we love has an affinity for loose juice. Yeah, LOOSE JUICE. I coined it. Ok fine, maybe it is a requirement that you drink.

Shout out to the people that are inspiring me and putting a smile on my face;
Doniree, Grace, Matt, Erica, Ashalah just among a few....cheers to you.




Do your friends inspire you and why (or why not)???


















67 comments:

Elle Bee... said...

I love this. I want to be friends with your cute little face. Dinner party and tequila -- yes! Also, board games.

I've reviewed my friendships and knocked off the toxic people. All that's left are sequins and sunshine. We have such a fun, happy bunch of people to hang out with now; who knew we'd live longer because of it.

Matt said...

Cheers to this post!!

and Cheers to my Bromance!

Tori said...

my friends are totally inspiring. raeann for telling it like it is and not giving a shit what you think or whether or not you want to hear it, jasmine for maintaining her girlish innocence well into her twenties, and lauren for building an amazing family and serious career SIMULTANEOUSLY by the age of twenty-six. i love 'em.

Kara said...

I feel slightly horrible to say that none of my close friends inspire me. Or maybe they do ... they make me look closer at my own life so I don't make the same mistakes some of them have done. So yeah, I guess they do inspire me afterall.

Chelsea Talks Smack said...

elle- I want that too! Knocking out the toxic ones is definitely KEY

matt- you guys are cute- I hear that you guys got a bro bug?? Brash was sick too. Hope you're feeling betttter

Tori-I love this, family/career that's definitely the key building both, equally successfully- LOVE

kara-I defintely went through a phase where I felt that way, then a lot of that changed when I realized it was ME who wasn't inspired at that point- how could they inspire me if it didn't come from some place genuine firsT?

Impressions Of My Life At The Moment said...

I do love this post and it is ok that he wasnt down with the JMan. I am not either.

Chelsea Talks Smack said...

impressions- we definitely both have our beliefs, that are strong and certain....BUT my religion is love. there. the end. :) No judgement. It works better for us

Meghan said...

YAY for friends! My hubby and I are always looking for new couple friends. But sometimes I am awkward, or too drunk:(

HeatherClark said...

ya none of my friends are particularly inspiring i guess haha. very few if any are "chasing their dreams" That is what's nice about having a blog because so many people who seem to start them it is their first step towards a dream.

I definitely don't have any toxic ones at this point though so that's a plus.

The thing with my "main" group of friends is they like to be with each other ALL the time. Like if I'm watching tv I'd rather be doing it alone and in bed I don't really want you to come over or be crammed on a sofa.

So I've found a happy balance, I have other friends, I hang out when I want to, and it's nice now.

Ashalah said...

I've gotten a lot more inspiring friends as of late *cough*you*cough*, especially since I moved and I'm learning who from my past is going to be there for me in the future now that I'm 2 time zones and over 2000 miles away.

When you come to Boulder monday to do "work", we are drinking wine and that may lead to an impromptu game of drunken Clue. ;) Just to warn you.

Katelin said...

i feel like i just need to come to colorado already, it's where all the cool kids are these days, haha.

Jessica Labus said...

i'm a musician person...but we could still be friends.

stephanie said...

love this post

my friends inspire me very much, especially because we all live so far apart...seeing them grow as people and follow their dreams is beautiful and inspiring to me.

:)

LaLa said...

Sweetness, so true! I love this! I take pride in the fact that I only surround myself with people with positivity and purpose!! So therefore I'm always inspired!!

Ben said...

Boulder is the new Chicago apparently.

Jells.

Christina said...

I think Sean and I are about to go through this as well with our new move. The only friends I had in Boston when I met him were 19 year old girls I bartended with or guys I dated so we ended hanging out a lot with his friends. I'm excited to really get involved in activities and meeting what I call "quality" people.

Kay said...

I know exactly how you feel; I'm in the post-college all-my-friends-now-live-in-different-cities-and-I-need-new-ones place, mixed with the knowledge that in less that a year I will be living in another new city and have to start all over again!

Congrats to you for finding those new people, though; it's wonderful to find someone who really inspires you to live your best life!

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Liz said...

Ahh I'm so jealous you are in the Boulder area now. I fell in love with that place. Who knows, maybe one day the mister and I will end back up there on a more permanent basis.

Also, I've found that once you're in a serious relationship, new *relationship-y* friends are part of the process. My love and I together have met some awesome couples who run in kind've the same circles as us. Of course we still have our other, single friends who we've also mixed together and are now "our" friends together.

Fuck I don't even know if any of that made sense. It sounded right in my head then again, my head is a pretty effed up place. Ha.

michelle said...

oh how i hate making new friends. i think i come off as a bigger bitch than i actually am (granted, i am kind of a bitch...). good thing my current friends think im awesome :)

glad you guys are getting out there, and successfully finding new peeps. your fabness should definitely be shared with as many people as possible

Heather Rose said...

I'm an artist. You can be friends with artists, right? We're just always late, and sleepy. :P

I think all my friends inspire me. As different as we are, we all share our passions and support one another.

mrs. b. said...

me = total nerd. most of my closest friends are people i've met through blogging...is that crazy/lame/pathetic? it's just that they're some of the coolest people on the planet. hands down.

Allison Blass said...

I have always had a really difficult time making friends. I have friends, but not a group, and I only see these people every few weeks because of how busy everyone is. I don't think Manhattan is very conducive to friendships because everyone is always going a million places. It makes me sad - like really sad. Sometimes I cry about it. sigh. :(

But I'm glad you're happy. That's awesome.

Herding Cats said...

A book club? Tack Tuesday? It's at times like these that I wished I lived in Denver!

Gina said...

That picture of you is so cute!

To answer your question: yes. My friends inspire me most definitely. They encourage me to live my dreams, are there for me when I need them, and love me for who I am. I am lucky to have them.

I'm glad you and you're love are finding a great circle of friends, because you surely deserve it!

vi said...

you are the cheekiest, wittiest writer i've come across on blogger! i'd love to eat [vegetarian] tacos with you.

i love my friends and they inspire me to become a better person and achieve everything i want.

Diane said...

Hy, this is such a great text, loved it!Actually my friends have always inspired me and me an the bf we're always trying to spend time with people that we have stuff to talk about, interesting stuff to do...Not just laying around drinking bear :P

Anyway, you're my friend if you don't watch Twilight :D

have a fun weekend!

kiss

Miss Angie said...

I love my friends, but lately they seem to be slipping away... I moved and I guess I have to reestablish friendships with the distance. Even if it is only an hour.

P.T said...

I don't have much friends. I try to keep to myself since all of the new friends I made last year had a hidden agenda. I loathe bitching and backstabbing. *sighs* I love my own company by the way so I don't dig much...

However it'd be awesome to have friends like you...:)

The Boob Nazi said...

My friends support me, and that means more to me than inspiring me. I'm really the only one who can inspire myself, which depresses me.

Beth Ruby said...

I like your super cute smiley face :D

And yes my friends are inspiring!
The really close ones anyway.
The more you know someone the more inspiring they can be.

Amazing post, as ever.

xx

daisychain said...

I <3 this post.

My friends inspire me for being everything I'm not!

Amanda said...

My friends completely inspire me...I've just recently started getting close to a group of about 5 or 6 women from my church, and they're so awesome (each in their own way) that I can barely stand it...

Steph said...

Sadly, I agree with Kara. My friends totally do not inspire me :/

Doniree said...

Obvs, I LOVE this post. And the part in the comments where you said "my religion is love." Couldn't have stated it better. You inspire and push me to be ever more awesome :) Also? My fave part:

"Then there's always the trick of finding a couple that each of you likes the other's significant other- nothing worse than two guys with a "bromance" when the girlfriends can't stand each other. And we have found those people!"

I look forward to so many double dates :)

Amy said...

This post is great...I think we all have a bit of nerd in us!

Thanks for visiting my blog!

siklittlepiece said...

You should defnitely read The Last Song ... I'm about halfway through but I really enjoy. The main girl is strong and speaks her mind and its refreshing!!! so yes I recommend it :) and I love taco nights with my friends too!!

Aunt Becky said...

Hells yes my friends inspire me. I would totally be your BFF.

Hannah Katy said...

Loved the whole idea of the Nerdscapade.

I too have done a lot of weeding out of friendships that did not offer much to me. Now I stick to those who I am inspired by and who are genuinely there for me. It is crazy how many people you can meet over the blogosphere that are genuine and compassionate though. I have been pleasantly surprised.

Best,

Hannah Katy

Jill said...

Congrats on the social expansion! I was just telling a friend of mine how amazing and surreal it is to arrive in a new city with no one, and then, in no time, look around and realize you've found family...

My friends inspire me everyday.

Shannon said...

I'd say if my friends didn't inspire me in some way (even something small) then I would wonder why we were friends in the first place. I wish I knew all my blog friends in real life, because each and every one of you inspire me!

Kelly said...

can you tell us how you made your cool friends? All my friends are from kindergarten and we don't live in the same country anymore. Husband and I are about to move to a new city and I have no idea how to make friends. How embarrassing! But friend making is definitely a skill!

City Soliloquy said...

My friends are inspirational - many have had their crosses to bear, had strength to follow their dreams and make their own huge strides into the world. It isn't easy. They also make me examine my own actions and path which I see as a positive thing.

When I travelled W. Canada, I made a couple of friends from Craigslist (YES I'M ADMITTING THIS!!) in Calgary (where I will be living in March onwards for a year). I just wanted to lay some friendship foundations, everyone I met turned out to be just super and I'm looking forward to getting to know them more and meeting more new folks.

It makes me sad that my high school friends and Uni friends are spread over the country so I might only get to see them once a year.

Felisa said...

I just hung out with some friends and had the absolute BEST valentine ever. I came back and went straight to volunteermatch.org because they inspired me or at least made me feel like oh screw sleep, I'd rather be awake and enjoy every freaking waking moment rather than get 8 hours everyday and wonder if I could've spent an hour doing something else that day.

Not dissing on Valentine's day as a couple thing but it was just so refreshing to talk to people who are like, "Yeahhh I'll be unemployed 90% of the time someday as an actress and eating ramen noodles everyday but when I DO work, I will love every minute of it." It inspired me to pursue my dreams that will for surely make me a broke girl someday. But I'll at least be a happy broke girl :)

Carissa said...

I want to find those kinds of friends that you've found too! I have been in kind of a friend funk since graduating college and working at home! it is SO hard to make new friends, at least it has been for me. but nothing is a good as a friend who is fun and inspiring and likes the loose juice. haha.

angela.kolachny said...

I left you a little something over at my blog today:o)

Miss Caitlin S. said...

Adorable~ I love the Couples quest, I feel ya. Glad u found it.

sid said...

My friends are like my own personal cheerleaders. They keep encouraging me to reach for the impossible.

Brittney said...

LOL this post pretty much sums us up. Moving from CA to TX sort of blew in the sense that we were stepping not only away from friends and loved ones, but into a state where we just aren't the majority: We're Atheists in the Bible Belt, Liberal-y nerds with a passion for vegetarianism and the earth smack dab in the rodeo capital of the world. LOL.

So, we've SLOWLY. OH SO SLOWLY. been finding like-minded pals but this post put a smile on my face. I'm glad I'm not the only one who fists pumps when I meet another non-crazy!

Alexis said...

Hmm...my friends inspire me because they like me. They do their thing & want me to do mine, & we'll all meet up in the middle for drinks & fun times. I love that they respect my beliefs & don't expect me to act a certain way because of them & vice versa.

Glad you found the best kind of people. ;)

Ally B said...

I need more friends. I have some friends, but not *close* friends (other than my man).

Elizabeth said...

I meant to ask you about the book of love letters you spoke about in one of my posts. What's it called? I am very interested in making my love read them to me at bedtime :)

Grace Boyle said...

Ah, I love this. I'm so happy to be your (new) friend and loving every moment of it. My personal favorite is when it's just right, it clicks and there's equality of inspiration on either end.

Kudos to you my dear. So happy for you and Ryan :) Here's to many more, tequila, cheesy, ignites, reading, geeking out and laughter. XXOO

Chelsea Talks Smack said...

CHEERS TO YOU ALLL for being my lovely virtual friends!!!!!

Meg said...

I've totally made gaining friends a mission over the past year -- mostly because my loser ex became my whole life for years and I slowly -- but surely -- let all these important people get away from me. Not anymore! Now I'm only friends with inspiring, like-minded people... and have found new ones to make me feel good about myself. And life. That's what it's all about!

Phoenix said...

Best Cheshire Cat face ever, Chelsea :)

I too am on a nerdscapade...is that what you called it? I speak Star Wars and Battlestar Galactia fluently but I can put on red lipstick and smudgy eyeliner with the best of 'em. Balance, right?

My friends are in the same boat as me...we're functional, cool nerds with rad social skills who can charm the hell out of anyone. So they inspire me everyday to embrace EVERY part of myself.

Great post, as usual, girl.

Wonderful said...

What kind of books is your book club reading? Mine recently ended...

Dasha said...

Yes, my friends inspire me a lot. Besides Frank Zappa, the people who had the most influence on my sense of humour are the people that I know. (Not that I copy their style; it's more like their absurdity makes me comfortable with the style that naturally occurs in me.)

Chelsea Talks Smack said...

wonderful- our first one is The Elegance of the Hedgehog!

Cinnamon said...

We need a fun couple to hang out with. We don't have "couple" friends. And the last ones we tried to hang out with basically had sex at the bowling alley right in front of us while I was desperately trying to finish off the pitcher of beer while no one was looking, and making fun of the boy for his poor bowling skills. It was awkward.

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OneCraftyFox said...

My *real* friends, absolutely inspire me.

Amanda West said...

My real friends are all having babies...

So, no. At the moment, they are not inspiring me.

:)

Katie said...

"... and he had just stopped being a Christian."

Hahahahahahaha!

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livin wide said...

i want to be your friend! my bf and i are going through the exact same thing...

livin wide said...

i want to be your friend! my bf and i are going through the exact same thing...

Heidi said...

Hey! You posted this forever ago but I've recently found your blog and are now sifting through your archives. Do you still do the book club thing? I wanna join. And I'm close-ish in local- work in Boulder, live in Broomfield. I need to read. My brain is dying for non-engineer thoughts.

 
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