"How cute!....we have friends!"
"Yay we have friends!" then, we chest bumped and shimmied at the Gods, like we were wearing an outfit from Toddlers and Tiara's, our sequins reflecting off the stage lights. Show 'em your teeth baybee!
This was the ridiculously nerdy conversation My Love and I just had this morning, while I attempted to be domestic and served him eggs with broken yolks. We nerded out so hard with excitement that lately our circle of friends has grown IMMENSELY (thank you internet...wow, fuck. That put me in the upper echelon of nerdiness just now... but I don't watch Twilight, or speak code? Do I gain points back? I also partied with Lenny Kravitz daughter once...? No? Nothing?)
When we first started dating I had just moved back from New York and he had just stopped being a Christian. So, basically....we didn't have any friends, or friends who didn't judge us for one reason or another. Reason 1. You left us for fame, fortune, and men that look like GQ models. Reason 2. You abandoned Jesus. (My Love's reason is so much deeper, I'm gonna stick with the vain stuff, cause I'm into "balance") He lost his core group when he realized he couldn't talk about sex, booze and rock & roll. Ya know, sinful shit. And I had to reestablish old friendships and find/build relationships that reflected my current lifestyle- or the one I wanted to see myself in as "an adult."
So we went on a mission- a Nerdscapade (Definition; people who were physically awkward in high school, that still have a complex about it- on a mission to find friends and take over the world, one cocktail & business card at a time, take that suckas) if you will; To A. stop nesting and watching Lifetime B. Break out of our "musician only" circle- because though our musician friends are lovely, they're generally broke, drunk, and flakey. All fun; all unreliable when you need someone to just-bring-the-fucking-chips-to-the-pot-luck. C. Stop flaking out. After all, we are those musician people I was just speaking of, with better hygiene. We decided to start saying "yes" to invitations, new friends, new opportunities and new experiences. And free booze.
Since the beginning of our Nerdscapade we have; Hosted a Taco Tuesday night (if melted cheese is involved I'm so there...) Taken various trips up to Boulder for internet awesomness like Ignite Boulder, gone on "double dates" with like minded couples, started a book club (this is my personal venture, any Denver/Boulder bloggers that want to be involved email me for details), and we've lengthened our life expectancy. This is fact and since I'm sensible (??), I need facts, otherwise I'd go on hibernating in solitude. Though that would be easier, I'd save so much money on mascara and pewter eyeshadow if I was less social...but hey, you win some you lose some. In this case, I win life. And who knows, possibly somewhere down the line more chances to wear an ugly bridesmaid dress and eat cake. If that's not a goal, then I don't know what is.
Figuring out a way to meld your dreams, your friendships, old and new isn't always easy. We wanted to find friends that we felt empowered us to feel and think exactly the way we ARE, not shadowed by who we think they want us to be. Then there's always the trick of finding a couple that each of you likes the other's significant other- nothing worse than two guys with a "bromance" when the girlfriends can't stand each other. And we have found those people!
We're laying the foundation now for future dinner parties vibrant with conversation, summertime adventures through our beautiful state and those evenings where everyone has one too many tequila shots and someone ends up doing a backspin. Or breaking a tooth.
We want to surround ourselves with people that inspire, debate, create, live their own personal "dream life"...... and we'll live ours. By deciding that's what we're seeking, those are the people we've found. No it isn't a prerequisite that you drink.....it's just magical that everyone we love has an affinity for loose juice. Yeah, LOOSE JUICE. I coined it. Ok fine, maybe it is a requirement that you drink.
Shout out to the people that are inspiring me and putting a smile on my face;
Do your friends inspire you and why (or why not)???