Wednesday, September 3, 2008

Heartbreak can turn ANYONE into a country singer

I almost drove to Tennessee two days ago to start a career as a country singer. No, seriously. I've embraced my impulsiveness, no matter how expensive and reckless it may seem. It's "of the moment," and I'm good with that.

Originally I was supposed to leave for Europe Sept 1st, then a few things came up that pushed my trip back to Sept 15th....which seems like light years away, when you're in the midst of (considering) recreating your entire identity, strapping on some chaps and getting a purse large enough for Aqua Net and Velcro rollers.

Coming to terms with something being "over" is something I've never liked. I'd rather something taper off until one day you're like, "hm. How did that end?" or "Strange, I haven't talked to that person in awhile." I suppose, "The Taper" is really just what cowards do to avoid the inevitable, so call me cowardly.

In my futile attempt to move forward; forward from my New York life, forward from my L.A. life, FORWARD from my "him being the only guy in my life forever" life, I've moved into what is now a country singing, traveling gypsy who lives on wine and cheese plates. Even when I move to the next chapter, I return to the old ones A LOT. Sure, it's different every time, but NEW is on my horizon.

I texted Nicole and told her to meet me there, in Nashville. I was ready and wanting anyone that was ready to bring their cowboy boots, their hankering for BBQ, their best line dancing moves and their shotguns to accompany me. Yeah bitches, shotguns.

Country music does that people. I can go from yoga peace loving hippie to Levi wearing, shotgun yielding, tobacco chewing cowgirl. Miranda Lambert needs to be my new best friend...maybe real girls are made of gunpowder and lead? Or maybe the reason I've migrated over to country lately is I understand the common themes in the music: family, love, heartbreak, home, and beer. Mm, beer.

Maybe, I just like the idea of things being simpler. Less deadlines, less cryptic speaking and less time worrying about "playing your cards right." I like the idea of being happy with a ranch and your favorite horse. I love the idea of a gentleman picking me up in a truck, hopping out to open the door for me and then surprising me with a bouquet full of wild daisies on the seat, or a picnic by a creek and a tree with a tire swing. I love the idea of someone simply, letting themselves fall in love. Is this real? Or did I see that in Hope Floats....or something?

I like the idea of things that we make so complicated, just being what they are. Courting someone shouldn't be brain surgery. Feeling your emotions and putting them into the proper outlets shouldn't be so daunting. Falling in love shouldn't be met with question every single time. Saying YES to something new shouldn't be as scary as we make it out to be. Living contently doesn't mean we stop striving or growing but we appreciate.

Baggage should be less heavy. People should be more trusting and trustworthy. Loyalty should just be, because we only get one life and the people we're given should be cherished. Dessert shouldn't be seen as a number, as calories, or guilt it should just be exactly what it is, delicious.

Why are fixing what isn't even broken? Are we meant to sabotage certain things to learn the lesson, to stick our hands in the pot and start stirring what was already perfect at a soft simmer, is the simplicity of things just being good too hard for us to handle???

Who knows, maybe after my trip to L.A. (where I will be hanging with the lovely Nicole Antoinette) and my journey across the water I'll head to country, cowboy boots in tow. That is if I can manage to keep things....simple.

Until then, I'm brushing up on my country repertoire....what's your favorite country tune??? and why??


TKTC said...

#1 I'm still very on board with the adventures. All of them. Particularly ones with Nicole involved because that is a lot of awesome for one place.

#2 "Falling Out of Love" and "Does He Love You" by Reba McEntire. And of course "Fancy."

brandy said...

"Drive On" by Johnny Cash. He packs so much into that song it's ridiculous. Also, I grew up in a country music loving home, so it's impossible for me to hear ANY Garth Brooks and not start singing like I'm getting paid for it.

Also, I'm jealous you are going to LA and get to hang up with Nicole. I hope all your adventures are even better than you can imagine!

Anonymous said...

I agree completely. Life should be fun... why do we make it stressful on purpose?

We're a lot alike. (Besides the whole singing thing... I can't sing a note to save my life.) I move a lot. Every time I see the opportunity for a new adventure, I grab it. But it is hard too, always uprooting yourself... ya know? NO one is ever sure how long you will be in their life, so sometimes they just stop trying. And that sucks.

Anonymous said...

I don't know a lot of country, but I love The Long Way Around by the Dixie Chicks, if that counts? Mainly because I relate. And my friends from high school did marry their high school boyfriends and didn't move far. I however, am still looking.

ANG* said...

deanna carter - how do i get there from here?
jo dee messina - heads carolina, tails california
lonestar - on my front porch looking in

oh and i could go on and on and on...

they are all great to take a road trip with the windows down singing at the top of your lungs.

dmb5_libra said...

dixie chicks - cowboy take me away

i'm a sucker for a good love song

Anonymous said...

Hmm.....I love so many songs....

I love a good melancholy country songs. Gary Allan does them very well (Life Ain't Always Beautiful, Songs About Rain, Watching Airplanes), Rascal Flatts has a couple of them (I'm Movin' On, These Days), Tim McGraw (When She Wakes Up and Finds Me Gone).

Also I love Sugarland and Toby Keith for some up-tempo fun songs. Trisha Yearwood has some great songs to sing along with (in my case, alone in my car, I don't have a beautiful singing voice like you).

Have fun traveling!

Sara Jane said...

I would totally buy your country records!

"Before He Cheats"- Because it makes me feel liberated, even though I didn't really bust up someones car.

"She's got you" by Patsy Cline. You should cover this!

Anonymous said...

Johnny Cash - Walk the Line. A simple love song

courtney said...

I just dug out my Randy Travis greatest hits today. Man. Forever and Ever Amen is really a classic, along with I Told You So, Hard Rock Bottom of Your Heart, Too Gone for Too Long... yeah. Definitely recommend some classic RT.

I am also in agreement with tktc on the Reba, and would love to add He Wants to Get Married, For My Broken Heart, and How Blue to that list.

Garth Brooks' The River is an all time favorite.

I Thought I Never Would Forget by Phil Vassar.

And on a much less depressing note, Chuck Wicks' new song, All I Ever Wanted is incredible.

Chelsea Talks Smack said...

Oh I have a playlist in the making now....hallelujah

Anonymous said...

I have moved twice to escape heartbreak, and once across the country with a man in my car with only my dog 'cause he thought it was a good idea'. My advice : heartbreak will follow you everywhere. But, Europe would be a nice distraction.
Oh, and "Roll on Mississippi" by Charley Pride, and "Wasted Days and Wasted Nights" by Freddy Fender.

LJ said...

I just happened onto your blog from twenty something bloggers and its awesome!

Shania Twain-Who's bed have you boots been under.

Anonymous said...

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I believe they used to make some her clothes, and her jewelry.

Anonymous said...

Heehee, "Gunpowder and Lead" is my ringtone! Let me know if you need a backup singer :o)

The baggage sucks, especially now that you have to pay more for every piece you check. But you know what? Lugging it around makes your arms stronger. And maybe eventually your heart.


nicole antoinette said...

Um, I know I'm supposed to be writing something about country music but I'M SO FUCKING EXCITED TO PICK YOU UP AT THE AIRPORT TOMORROW THAT I CAN'T MAKE REAL SENTENCES.

So... lkjgdlfkgjlfkgj

Katelin said...

my current country fave is 'that song in my head' by julianna hough, it's just so catchy and happy. and yeah i think the south and country living just seems so nice and lax, would definitely be a nice escape from the crazy that is la.

Heather said...

I found my man in Nashville- it could work for you too!

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~K~ said...

Hmm, there are so many good country songs!
"Young" by Kenny Chesney because it can remind anyone of their younger days ;-)
"My give damn's busted" by Jo Dee Messina because my give a damn is busted. And...
"Chicken Fried" by Zac Brown Band.

Josh Dyck said...

A motto i have come to love is "Know more, Carry less" seems like we have way to much stuff and not very much of anything when it comes to real substance.

Simplicity is the way to go.

bodelou said...

while i lived in north carolina, i vowed to never listen to country music. i am a city girl, and i was burnt out on the south. i left after five years, and miss it more than i can describe. especially the country music. now i cant list just one favorite...

dixie chicks- cowboy take me away, hold on
the wreckers- Tennessee, cigarettes
carrie underwood- flat on the floor
rascal flatts-what hurts the most

Ivonne said...

MY favorite country songs are "Live like you were dying" and "You'll think of me".

Princess Pointful said...

I get a kick out of the fact that the contrast between Nashville and Europe just works for you.
I like me some feisty Dixie Chicks toons.

Brunhilda said...

The main thing I love about country music is that it's nostalgic in a positive way--looking back at good times. And I like the twang and the steel guitar.

And I love me a man in good-fitting Levis and cowboy boots. Mmm.

Anonymous said...

All of them! I did grow up in Nashville, after all =)

Anonymous said...

I like your blog. :) Thanks for adding me on "20 something". I'll definitely come back to read more!

Sizzle said...

I'm more of a Patsy Cline kind of gal. Does that count as Country? I'm partial to "She's Got You"- it's lonesome and sad and just what a good country song should be.

Sizzle said...

I'm more of a Patsy Cline kind of gal. Does that count as Country? I'm partial to "She's Got You"- it's lonesome and sad and just what a good country song should be.

DomestiGals said...

Chelsea, great post and ENJOY Nashville when you get there. I hear ya on yearning for a simpler life... sigh. Don't even get me started on that one.

My fave country song? Hard to choose but one of the first country songs I ever loved is "Heads Carolina Tails California" by Jo Dee Messina. I have always loved the idea of just picking up and going - just like you're doing! Hang in there!

Rachel said...

Favorite country songs of the moment are Where've You Been by Kathy Mattea, and Stupid Boy by Keith Urban...yea Keith is yummy.

SlippingAway said...

Garth Brooks - Its Midnight Cinderella and Brooks and Dunn - Neon Moon

Anonymous said...

"These Boots." Wait, is that considered country?? When are you two going to be in Spain? You and Nicole have to come visit me!! :D

Anonymous said...

P.S. I love the music selection on your page. Always.

Marcheline said...

Yes, you did see that in "Hope Floats".

I lived in Nashville for five years, playing all the songwriters nights, following my dream, and I found something out.

A) Almost nobody in Nashville is FROM Nashville. They're all from somewhere else, looking to get discovered in Nashville.

B) Nashville is a whole lot of fun, but moreso if you're not totally set on "getting famous". There are thousands of fantastic singers and songwriters waiting tables at Denny's, hoping to be discovered. The "stars" are sometimes more about who they know than their talent. Just like Hollywood, really, only the food is better.

- M

Sid said...

You know that your life seems so awesomely exciting. I wish I could just pack up and go. I wish I'd followed my childhood dreams. Now I'm behind a computer thinking of ways to move up the corporate ladder when ... there's a part of me that would love to be a waitress in New York for a few months then move onto covering the news in Iraq, instead of leading this safe life.

Sid said...

Also Dixi Chicks - Landslide.

JUST ME said...

Guys wear pointy shoes in Nashville.

Such things aren't allowed in my time space continuum.

Larissa said...

Have a lovely adventure!

I like Rascal Flatts they even count as real country?

Chrissie Williams said...

My favorite country song:

Save a Horse, Ride a Cowboy by Big and Rich <--- for obvious reasons:)

Baking With Plath said...

Please Remember Me - Tim McGraw

Tim McGraw anything, really.

Penny Lane said...

You are honestly one of the best bloggers I've read in a long time. Thank you for this great post! I've been dealing recently with another one of those guys that has feelings for me but oh just can't hack it in a relationship. Why do they make simple things so complicated? Here, here, sister!

As for my favorite country song, "I'm Alright" by JoDee Messina. Because we are alright. If the sky is blue and a good friend is beside us, what is there to be unhappy about?

bETH vAUGHN said...

I'm with you on the simple life.
favorite country songs - and there are many -

I'm with the Band - Little Big Town
Maybe it was Memphis - Pam Tillis
Hillbilly Deluxe - Brooks & Dunn
Take Me as I Am - Sugarland
Long Way Around - Dixie Chicks

Mrs. Mary Mack said...

'All My Exes Live in Texas'...cause that's where all of my exes

kokostiletto said...

yeah "before he cheats" is pretty good

reba's "does he love you" is also pretty classic!!

Stephanie Olsen said...

Nashville would LOVE to have you! And you don't have to go country all the way- we have an awesome indie scene here too! Whoda thunk it??

CaLL me when you get here!! :)

ieishah said...

anything lee ann womack.

never again, again
i hope you dance
the fool

reba's 'please come to boston' is hot, too.

Gillian said...

Um, you're coming to L.A.? Cocktails?

Anonymous said...

My favorite country song is an oldie. Coat of Many Colors by Dolly Parton breaks my heart. I love that about a good country song. I also really love TIm McGraw by Taylor Swift and Something Like That and Just To See You Smile by TIm McGraw. The sadness in those songs can somehow make me feel better when I'm wicked down.

Peter said...

I LOVE this post. Truly.

And I am a sucker for classic country. Not just Johnny Cash. But, dudes like Charlie Pride, Charlie Rich, Merle Haggard.

And, of course Kris Kristofferson.

Anonymous said...

right not my absolute favorite country song is by an up-and-comer that you may know named Courtney Olson. Find it here: she's also made it available for free download until friday the 19th of september. really really really check it out. my life right now. srsly.

Unknown said...

a little late to respond here but I just read this post and wanted to give my input.

So many people talk shit about country music because it's so "hilbilly" and what not. But if people actually took the time to listen to the lyrics, they would see that these people are singing songs about the things that are going on in their lives!! I'm excited to see where this new adventure takes you.

As for favorite songs--oh so many!

*Darius Rucker-Don't think
*Jason Aldean-Relentless & Do You Wish It was Me
*Rascal Flatts--What hurts the most
*Carrie Underwood--Wasted and Starts with Goodbye
*Gary Allen-Songs About Rain

I personally am also a huge fan of stuff from any of the following from the 90's:
-Garth Brooks
-George Strait
-Trisha Yearwood
-Tim McGraw
-Faith Hill
-Martina McBride
-Reba McEntire

I could go on and on but I won't. I'm just excited for you!

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